Interstate Adoption Pick-me-up Needed

Re: Interstate Adoption Pick-me-up Needed

• jacksjerseygirl member

  September 2012

  The legalities and contracts that laid out everything should have been taken care of already? I don't know the specifics of your case but neither of you are related biologically then I would assume adoption. Your home study is current and reflects your intentions?
  
  As for icpc what is your concern?
  
  Baby is born. Biological mom relinquishes rights generally a couple days after birth depending on that states rules.
  
  Then you take baby. Your lawyer submits the proper paperwork so birth state and your state communicate that the child is leaving one state and going to the next. Sometimes this can be as quick as a few days but most of the time it is 7 to 10 days and rarely longer than that.
  
  It follows traditional adoption route which is usually 3 visits with social worker over 6 months no big deal... how baby is growing, dr visits, etc. First visit is generally withIn a month of birth. Your adoption lawyer would lay it all out. Whoever did your homestudy can do your post placements and submit. And then you finalize in court the adoption generally about 6 months later.
  
  It sounds though that you weren't prepared for this to be an adoption but that is exactly what it sounds like to me. Get with your lawyer.
  
  Good luck!!!!

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• Rachel Sonnier member

  September 2012

  I don't know much about surrogacy, but we are planning to have an interstate adoption and I don't see why it would be a big deal. Like the PP said, ICPC is usually resolved in under two weeks. I don't know anything about OK adoption laws, but I assume you just follow their procedures, go home after ICPC is all said and done, have a few home visits, and then go back to finalize. 

  What are the main concerns that the members of your adoption group have? I would think it would be pretty straight forward unless (A) it happens to be a state that requires an agency for all types of adoption, or (B) if either the BM or SD are registered Native Americans. I am trying to think of anything else that would complicate things, but like I said, I don't know much about surrogacy. 

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• kgs0505 member

  September 2012

  You need an adoption lawyer now.  This isn't a tradional surrogacy, more like an identified, independent adoption.  Don't worry about ICPC, like PP said 7-10 days you will be in the sending state before you can leave with the baby, but you need a lawyer, probably in both states, to handle the legalities.  Once you get back to your state, you will finalize the adoption.  Took us 10 months, but we had legal custody the whole time.

  And, the baby will be with you likely from discharge from the hospital.

  TTC since May 2006. After 3 failed Clomid cycles, 2 failed Injectibles/IUIs, 2 failed IVFs and 1 failed FET, we moved on to adoption! 
  

  

  
  Last ditch FET resulted in BFP, and identical twin girls!

     

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• IRR member

  September 2012

  Questions and comment. 

  Questions - First, did your surrogate get pregnant because you had a contract with her to do so?  If so, this is NOT adoption unless she was artificially inseminated with her eggs and donor sperm.  I am going to assume you and spouse paid for her to carry, which is not legal in adoption.  Don't you have a lawyer involved if this is a surrogate?
  

  Comment - Second, KS is an adoption friendly state and if that is the route you need to take it may not be any issue, or should not be, but this doesn't sound like a cut and close case of adoption. 

  GL and keep us posted.
  

  
  

  
  

  Failed Matches - December 2012, May 2013, December 2013
  

  Moved on to  gestational surrogacy with a family friend who is our angel and due 7/23/15

  
  

  
  

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