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Update to FET #1 Officially a fail. XP

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Well, my second beta was today and it was a BFN.  No surprise after the drama from this weekend.  I probably scared the poor phlebotomist this morning because she was the first one that I spoke to in person at the clinic since this weekends events and I wasn't in the best mood.  I hope she forgives me.  

I spoke with my usual IVF nurse in person and she was very apologetic about what happened and assured me that she had talked to the clinic manager and they were going to get to the bottom of how this could have happened.  She also told me my RE was aware and wanted to speak with me before I left, but he was in a procedure and I couldn't stay.  He called me later that day and was very sincere in his apologies both about the failed cycle and what happened this weekend.  He told me that he would be speaking with the nurse that called me this weekend tomorrow (it was her day off today) to see what happened.  He spoke to the lab and they assured him that it wasn't an error in reporting or inputing results on their part.  He also assured me they would reassess their protocols and that he was very upset that this had happened and knows how sensitive this is.  

I scheduled my WTF appointment for next week.  I'll see then what really happened and then move forward with planning FET #2.  

In the meantime, I talked with DH about getting a kitty.  I lost my dear 17 year old kitty, Emily, one year ago and I think it's time for another in my life.  DH agreed that we can get one after our move is done and we're settled in. Probably a little girl kitty, you know, just because...sigh.   

Thanks so much for listening and being there for me this weekend.  I appreciate your support more than you know!   

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TTC 10/11. IUI 2/12. BFP 3/8/12. 4/26/12 missed mc. RE consult 5/17/12. IVF #1 ER 7/13/12 53R, 41M ICSIed, 32F, 8 5d, 6 6d blasts - all PGD/frozen. PGD results 1 normal M and 1 normal F, 1 maybe M. FET 9/6, transferred 1 F embie. Beta 9/15 BFN. FET#2 planned for 11/2012 put off until 2013. Surprise BFP 11/21/12!! My son was born on 7/24/13!

FET 4/28/2015 - Transferred 1 M embie. 5/6/15 BFP!

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Re: Update to FET #1 Officially a fail. XP

  • 10-4LilBuddy10-4LilBuddy member
    I'm sorry.  That was an incredibly lousy weekend for you.  I admire your calm - I would have taken someone's head off when I got to that office.
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  • danieleandwaynedanieleandwayne member

    Well, after a totally sucktastic weekend, I think you deserve a kitty. Maybe two.

    The silver lining is, I suppose, that you have an RE who is very sensitive to your time, your feelings, and the roller-coaster of a ride that is IF. I'm impressed he took the time to call you when you couldn't stay and he was busy during your visit.

    I hope this is all just a set-up for a BFP with FET #2! Hang in there.  ((hugs))

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  • owlprofowlprof member
    I'm so, so sorry for everything that you've gone through the last several days.  Big hugs to you and your husband.
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  • robbensmrobbensm member

    I am so sorry you had to go through all of that.  But I'm happy to see that your RE's office is working to make sure that this never happens again. 

    I think a new kitty may be just what you need to bring your spirits up so you are ready for FET #2 and your official BFP! 

    Me 39 & suspected PCOS, DH 42. Went off BCP when we got married in 11/11, seriously TTC since 3/12.  Six cycles of clomid = BFNs.  Suspected endometriosis & HSG showed both tubes blocked.  Sept 2013 IVF 5D transfer of two perfect embryos = BFN.  Started acupuncture and taking time off to drop some pounds & get healthier before FET in April 2014.
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  • LlamamamaLlamamama member
    You have been thru so much this week.  :(  I think adding a new kitten is a great idea.  I have 4 foster kittens right now and it is impossible to be sad when they are frolicking around.  :)  Hang in there.
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  • active1active1
    Thinking of you during this trying time. I think you need a kitty too! I would be so sad if I didn't have mine through this process.
    Me 35. DH 35. Start TTC 06/12. DH
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  • p_stonep_stone member

    so sorry to hear this, and greatest sympathies for your rough week.  

    i had cats growing up and there is nothing like a tiny young kitten. So so cuddly and sweet. 

     

     

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