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Need some tips

kgaunttkgauntt member
in May 2012 Moms
on how to ignore MIL comments. We use to be super close, but ever since my baby was born things have been tense. She disagrees with my decision to BF and thinks it's crazy I haven't started solids yet... I guess this is where things began to go south. Just today, she came by and started to rant to me about politics. And I do mean rant. I've told her before I don't like talking about politics because it's just a touchy subject for everyone and we disagree about them anyway. I don't understand why she even brought it up. It makes me feel like she doesn't even like me anymore. I use to go up and visit her a lot, but now I just avoid her because of all her comments. I really don't want our relationship to be ruined. How do I ignore her stupid comments?
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Re: Need some tips

  • pithikakipithikaki member

    There is no easy way to ignore IMO, you just need to let it go.  With people like this, I try to remind myself that they've got issues and there's no more to it - it's not personal - so let it go in one ear and out the other. 

    In your case though, you say you used to be close.  Have you thought about talking to her about it, seriously?  What if you told her how you feel? Maybe have DH there to support you? Instead of coming off in a blaming way (even if she IS being ridiculous...) express that she is a big part of your life and you want your relationship with her good and solid for LO, too.

    I laid the law down real early with MIL and M - you had your turn parenting, I appreciate the advice and concern, but me and DH are the parents.  

    FWIW, my mom is convinced LO should be on solids already too (especially because she's a bigger baby), and her solution to my plugged ducts, breast pain, needing to go home to pump for LO, etc. is "why don't you just stop??" Take it with a grain of salt and leave it all at the door when you go home! :P

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