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Daddy bedtime...

FtrMrsCFtrMrsC member
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Since birth basically, I have been the one to do bed time routine.  DH has done it a few times when I couldn't be here but for the most part I am it.  Mostly just because it has been easier than the fight that would be sure to ensue with my mommy clingy boy.  Well now I'm expecting another and realize that it would be good to trade off and get DS used to Daddy doing bedtime.  Any suggestions on making it an easy transition?  We were thinking maybe having DH doing it for several days in a row and then switching off.  

I want to try to figure this out before we have to transition to a toddler bed since DS has tried a few times now to climb out of his crib.  Any help would be greatly appreciated! 


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  • stepheverhartstepheverhart member
    Do bedtime together. On the nights my DH is home we do bedtime together and that way on nights I can't be home LO doesn't freak out. And Daddy will know the 'right' way to do things, well at least the routine :
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    My husband has been doing it every night since about 8 months old, and now when I try to do it he will not go to sleep! He'll get used to it, I think it took about two weeks and now its like scary when I have to do it because it can be a fight. My husband uses that time as his bonding time since he basically gets home 1.5 hour before bedtime and he hates missing it
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  • melissa0726melissa0726 member
    We were in the same situation where I was solely taking care of the bedtime routine since I was BFing.  Around 9 months, I started having DH come up with us to get DD ready for bed.  At first he'd just hang out while I went through our normal routine.  He'd pop in and out during bath time, chat with her and show her toys while I put on her diaper and pj's and play with her a little bit before we turn down the lights so I could nurse and rock her.  Gradually he took over doing some of these tasks himself while we are both there.  We usually do bedtime together now, but DD feels a lot more comfortable having him get her ready for bed on the rare occasion I'm not around or I need to take a break.  Good luck!
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  • FtrMrsCFtrMrsC member
    We already do part of the routine together. So you guys think that me making myself scarce wont help?
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  • Anne MommyAnne Mommy member
    I would have Dad try the routine alone once or twice while you are not there (or in another room). Then I would alternate or do it together.
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  • blueandgrayblueandgray member
    I'm in the same boat.  I want to encourage MH to come up with his own bedtime routine with DD a few nights a week.  She's not interested in storytime before bed yet which I'd really like to encourage, but maybe she'll be more comfortable snuggled in dad's bigger lap.  I do most of the child care today and work FT as well, and with #2 on the way, I need to share some of that more since I'm exhausted and DD finally seems to be a little LESS mommy-clingy.  And MH is way more interested in DD now that she's becoming more of a little person he can interact with.  He seemed to have a hard time connecting with her as a baby until the last couple months, especially when she very clearly favored me.
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  • misskris927misskris927 member
    I agree with doing bedtime together. It works well for us because on nights where either I can't be there, DD is fine with just having her dad. GL!
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  • chardonnay24chardonnay24 member
    My H started doing the bedtime routine last year because I had evening classes. After the term was through, we continued having him do bedtime. A couple months ago, my H was out for the night and I tried to put A to bed. He screamed, "Daaddeeee" for about an hour before finally passing out. We decided to do it together for a few nights, and then take turns. Now A will go to sleep for either of us.
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  • stepheverhartstepheverhart member
    We started doing bedtime together a few weeks before I had to leave for a work trip for a week. My LO did just fine and so did daddy. I think it boosted my DHs confidence bc he new what to do to keep the routine going. And like pp said do not get upset if LO changes the routine a bit. Daddies just do things slightly different sometimes and LO will more than likely love it
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