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December 2011 Moms
Carrie3102
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Vacation = Epic Fail
Carrie3102
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So... I wish I could say our vacation went better than it did.
We left early Thursday am at 3. DD slept until 6, was up until 8 (and happy I might add), had breakfast and slept until 9:30. We rolled in at 10. Perfect. -- DH did not like this "travel choice" and said we'd do it "his" way on the way home. He claimed he was too tired and does better on no sleep than 5/6 hrs of sleep.
Thursday -- Hung out at his cousin's house until the hotel would take us, went to hotel, checked in, had dinner w/his cousin and fiance. -- DD LOVES mac & cheese. -- DD in bed by 8:30... good day.
Friday -- wake up take DD to breakfast in hotel, get DH hair cut, go to a few shops, have lunch, back to hotel for afternoon nap. -- DD sleeps until 3pm... perfect! -- All inlaws show up at 3:30, head to pool. We go to visit, and swim. Ask DH to tell me when it is 5:15 (DD eats dinner between 6 and 6:30, want to ensure we are ready), DD and I go up get showered and dressed for dinner. It is now 6:00. DH comes up from the pool to shower and get ready to leave. We had decided where we wanted to go for dinner prior to his family showing up.
We receive a phone call from MIL that "we need to get down there and get this bouncy seat" so they can go up to their room, we did not ask for said bouncy seat, we actually said not to bring it. I take DD down to the pool to get it. MIL wants to hold her, she's been drinking, but I'm right there, and she is sitting down... ok. I walk away (10 ft tops) to get the bouncy seat. Speak to FIL, and turn around and MIL has handed DD to some man I've never seen before. I walk directly over to where they are standing, and MIL says, oh sorry, this is 'Joe' so I figured we "knew" him as he was introduced like a friend. 'Joe' keeps kissing LO on the cheek, then tries to kiss her mouth... I tell 'Joe' and MIL that we need to finish getting ready and take LO. -- I asked DH who 'Joe' was and how we "knew" him, he said, oh, he's just some drunk that lives here at the hotel. OMG, WTF, SERIOUSLY MIL?!. I told DH to have a conversation with her, because if I did it would NOT be pretty.
So, now I have NO trust in my heart for MIL's concern for the well being of MY child.
DD falls down, gets black eye, and cut next to her eye, by bumping it on the dresser... feel like horrible mother.
We make it to dinner at 8... yep 8 pm. DD'd bed time is between 8 and 8:30... but did DH push anyone to move, or say we were going to go anyway, no of course not. Then when DD got fussy, guess who got to take her back to the hotel, and guess who went out drinking all night... Friday night... no good.
Saturday -- DD fussy all am won't nap, not in a good mood. DH is ordered by his Aunt and mother to "Take your dad to liquor store" MIL offers to watch DD... I say no. DD and I sit in car at liquor store, we pick up lunch, head to bride/groom's house to help pick up all decorations, DD naps in the car. We get back to the hotel by 1, feed DD try to get her to nap. Wedding is at 6. DD up at 5, falls down AGAIN and bumps other eye brow. Two black eyes.
DD doesn't go to bed until 10 pm... DH doesn't get up with her not even once out of the 10 times she's up. -- Saturday night... no good.
Sunday -- DD up at 6, DH and I start packing. DH goes w/DD down to pick up bag carrier. Sees MIL eating bfast, gives DD to her. MIL gives DD sausage gravy and biscuits... nice, I know what that does to me... wonder what it will do to a 9 month old.
We load car and check out. My sister shows up, we go shopping, all day until 3 pm, DD does not fall asleep as hoped in stroller.
DH wants to go to cousin's house until after DD goes to bedthen we drive all night I sleep, DH Drives. This way I can get up with DD at 6 and he can sleep in. This is "his" way.
We leave at 9pm. DD is sleeping, I start to fall asleep around 10. DH says... "You're going to sleep already?" So I say no, and stay awake. At 12 am DH says he is too tired to drive (he's being dangerous) I say, lets just stop for the night, he said no, you drive. So I drive us home. We get home at 4 am. DD fusses until 4:30 and goes back to sleep until 6:30.... I get up with DD. DH rolls out of bed at 9 am.
DD is all out of whack and was up until 11 pm last night (I also think she's getting a molar) and I was the one who stayed up with her.
I feel like I need a vacation... and I also feel like DH is worthless sometimes.
Thanks for letting me vent. I haven't been able to discuss my anger with anyone as DH thinks I'm "being ridiculous".
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Re: Vacation = Epic Fail
haha, yep DHs can be like that. I don't know why they think we are the only ones who can feed LO.
I didn't even BF so, he's been able to help the whole time... he's fed her probably TOPS 20 times in 9 months.
Oh boy! You aren't alone - that sounds pretty close to what my DH would do under similar circumstances. Hard as it is, just roll with it and plan when it comes time for the next trip that it'll pretty much be the same way until your LO gets older... It sucks, but there's only so much that you can do and instead of fighting it at least by embracing it you can laugh at it and not get stressed out over it. Pretty much every trip we've made has gone the way you mentioned sans MIL and the strange drunk guy...
As for your MIL, OMFG I'd be livid too!!!!
Ugh. That stinks? Don't you hate it when you feel like you need a vacation from your vacation?
. I would be so mad at MIL for her behavior too. And sorry about DH. Men can be such pains in the butt sometime! Can you talk to him about helping out more?
That's my goal this evening... we'll see how it goes.
Yep, yours will automatically be better. I will never EVER do that again. Next time DD and I stay home.
Good luck with the talk. I know that isn't an easy one....