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Baby Shower Vent! A little long!

JackiewoodamsJackiewoodams
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Hi Ladies,

Well, the ladies (my mother, my step mother, my MIL and a friend) that are hosting my shower met on Thursday. This past week has been a rough week for my mother- her husband lost his mom on Tuesday. She asked me to put together a folder of ideas, so they would have something to talk about. Of course that didn't go over well with my step mother and MIL. They thought that my mother and I had planned everything and that nothing was going to be a surprise for me. And sad to say that is only the beginning. My mother and friend asked if I wanted alcohol drinks at the baby shower and this is the only thing that I have put my foot down about- I don't want it there. I have hosted a Pink or Blue party for everyone where there was a keg and Jello shots. Well, now my step mother has informed my friend that she and my father will not be attending my baby shower because there will be no alcohol and that it is being held at his ex-wife?s house! First off my mother and father have been divorced for more than 20 years. And not coming over, they have all hung out in different setting for the last 10 years.

Am I being crazy or over reacting about this? I am totally pissed about this! Right now, I don't want to see my step mother for the fear of what will come out of my mouth!

Thank you for listen or reading in this case! :)

 

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  • EastCoastBrideEastCoastBride member

    Honestly, I would'nt waste a whole lot of energy being mad over people who would actually NOT come to a baby shower that doesn't have alcohol.

    My basic response would "Sorry to hear you won't be there".

    To pull this- your tstepmother is looking for drama.  Don't give it to her.  Just shrug and say "sorry".  I wouldn't be surprised if she ended up coming anyhow.

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  • Allycat11Allycat11 member
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    Honestly, I would'nt waste a whole lot of energy being mad over people who would actually NOT come to a baby shower that doesn't have alcohol.

    My basic response would "Sorry to hear you won't be there".

    To pull this- your tstepmother is looking for drama.  Don't give it to her.  Just shrug and say "sorry".  I wouldn't be surprised if she ended up coming anyhow.

    Exactly this.  I also would bet it is not about the alcohol. My guess would be she doesn't want to see your mother, but clearly I don't know the entire back story of your family.  

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  • Enigma11Enigma11 member
    I would be very angry too. She is looking for drama, I would vent to my DH and get angry, but to her I would simply say "sorry you won't be there" Don't give her the satisfaction, don't let her know it bothers you.
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  • moonglow_84moonglow_84

    I'm sorry you're having to deal with this.  I had a lot of problems with my step mother who was a drama queen like this.

    IMO, alcohol does not belong at a baby shower.  Some people do it, and that's fine, but to me it's tacky for guests to get lit and socialize while the MTB just sits there.  So great choice!

    Chances are your step mom is just overreacting and she'll probably calm down in a while.  Till then I wouldn't bring up the shower to her anymore.  If she's uncomfortable attending a shower that is at your mom's house, she can pay for a different place!

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  • theimpossibleastronauttheimpossibleastronaut member
    I have never been to a baby shower where alcohol was served. I find it a little ridiculous that they wouldn't attend over that, but that's their decision. As previous PPs said, tell them you're sorry they won't be attending and move on. It's not worth your energy to be worried over this. I hope you enjoy your shower.
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  • BiscuitEater21BiscuitEater21 member

    This is YOUR baby shower and it should be all about you and that baby you're having! If she's trying to cause all this drama, I would just try to relax. I would definitely be mad, but I would try to leave it as it is. 

    I don't see why alcohol needs to be at a shower really, since pregnant women and anyone driving can't really drink! Also, from my experience with alcohol, it just causes horrible truths to come out and not always on purpose so having it there could just cause MORE drama!!! 

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  • rhubarb123rhubarb123 member
    imageAllycat11:
    imageEastCoastBride:

    Honestly, I would'nt waste a whole lot of energy being mad over people who would actually NOT come to a baby shower that doesn't have alcohol.

    My basic response would "Sorry to hear you won't be there".

    To pull this- your tstepmother is looking for drama.  Don't give it to her.  Just shrug and say "sorry".  I wouldn't be surprised if she ended up coming anyhow.

    Exactly this.  I also would bet it is not about the alcohol. My guess would be she doesn't want to see your mother, but clearly I don't know the entire back story of your family.  

    I agree with both of these.

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