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SS2 tried again to complain to my sister that I am sssooo mean

He has to do 90 minutes of chores on Saturday.  My sister and brother told him that we did a full day's worth of chores every Saturday. 

And then... gasp... if he is fresh, he goes to his room for 10 minutes.  Life is over for those ten minutes.  My brother told him that he was once grounded to his bedroom for two weeks.  SS2 said he thought he would die.

No sympathy from my family.  The drama from a teenage boy. 

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Re: SS2 tried again to complain to my sister that I am sssooo mean

  • Ha. I'm glad he was told how much worse things could be. I love entitled teenagers... * sarcasm*
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  • Honestly I think 90 min of chores is a lot so I would think you were mean if I were him too. What are his chores?
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  • imageLittlejen22:
    Honestly I think 90 min of chores is a lot so I would think you were mean if I were him too. What are his chores?

    Are you kidding?  Its hard to read sarcasm.  I'm going to assume you were.  He has to clean his bedroom, bathroom, vacuum the stairs and hallway, and sort his laundry (and put away later).

    together since 2006
    full time stepmom to SS1 and SS2 since 2010
    married since 2011

    TTC since 7/2011 (no planned bc since 2008)
    HSG 11/2011: one blocked tube
    S/A 2/2012 and retest S/A 3/2012: normal
    Bloodwork: normal
    2nd HSG 5/2012: clear
    Femara cycle 5mg #1 7/14/12 + IUI #1 7/23/12 = bfn
    New RE appt 8/14/12
    IVF #1 meds 8/30/12. ER 9/14/2012: 7 retrieved, 6 fertilized. ET 9/19/12: 1 perfect embryo 5dt.
    Beta #1 BFP! 97
    Beta #2 234
    Beta #3 4937
    ultrasound #1 heart beat 127
    10/20/12 graduated!!!
    EDD 6/7/12
    Team PINK!!

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  • imagelily_721:

    imageLittlejen22:
    Honestly I think 90 min of chores is a lot so I would think you were mean if I were him too. What are his chores?

    Are you kidding?  Its hard to read sarcasm.  I'm going to assume you were.  He has to clean his bedroom, bathroom, vacuum the stairs and hallway, and sort his laundry (and put away later).

    Actually, I was wondering something along those lines myself - and I have the laziest SS and DH when it comes to chores.

    If the chores are the normal chores a teenager has to do while living with his family, then you are on point.

    If you are using chores as punishment, it all depends on what the crime was and if you planned on having him do the 90 minutes all at once.  Note: I dont think 90 minutes worth of chores as a punishment is a bad thing...just not all at once because after about 30, he is going to loose it and start doing it wrong...breaking up the chores in inciments makes the punishment more effective.

    But no, you are not evil.

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  • imagelily_721:

    imageLittlejen22:
    Honestly I think 90 min of chores is a lot so I would think you were mean if I were him too. What are his chores?

    Are you kidding?  Its hard to read sarcasm.  I'm going to assume you were.  He has to clean his bedroom, bathroom, vacuum the stairs and hallway, and sort his laundry (and put away later).

    That is not 90 minutes worth of chores (unless your home is like the Vanderbilt mansion, and it takes 60 minutes to vaccum the stairs).  That is 30 minutes worth of chores that has stretched into 90. 

    Unless he is a complete slob, his room and bathroom should take 10 minutes each.  I'm assuming he doesn't have to scrub the fixtures with a toothbrush.

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    imagelily_721:

    imageLittlejen22:
    Honestly I think 90 min of chores is a lot so I would think you were mean if I were him too. What are his chores?

    Are you kidding?  Its hard to read sarcasm.  I'm going to assume you were.  He has to clean his bedroom, bathroom, vacuum the stairs and hallway, and sort his laundry (and put away later).

    That is not 90 minutes worth of chores (unless your home is like the Vanderbilt mansion, and it takes 60 minutes to vaccum the stairs).  That is 30 minutes worth of chores that has stretched into 90. 

    Unless he is a complete slob, his room and bathroom should take 10 minutes each.  I'm assuming he doesn't have to scrub the fixtures with a toothbrush.

    I agree that it shouldnt take 90 minutes to do the chores listed, but if it is a lazy teenager we are talking about who isnt wanting to do chores at all, I think it is possible that he is dragging the chores out.

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  • Why are you enforcing this and not your DH?

     

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  • Hah! I love that your family put him in his place, so to speak. When I was a kid we had chores to do every Saturday/Sunday and they were just about on point with the chores you described. In addition, my brother and I had to do the dishes and straighten up the kitchen every night after dinner. I'm sure your SS would be horrified!
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  • I just read that Kelly Ripa makes her kids do chores every day.  If her kids can do chores - so can yours! 
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  • I tell my kids I'm mean.  DH will tell you I'm a mean mom.  I am.  I'm a mean mom.  My kids have to do all their homework before free time, they have to keep their rooms neat, they have household chores, and they get additional chores for bad behavior.  I also make them do schoolwork during the summer.

    Stay strong, mean mom. 

    Stay at home mom to a house of boys: two amazing stepsons, 12 and 9, and our 4 year old.
  • imageJA2008:
    I tell my kids I'm mean.nbsp; DH will tell you I'm a mean mom.nbsp; I am.nbsp; I'm a mean mom.nbsp; My kids have to do all their homework before free time, they have to keep their rooms neat, they have household chores, and they get additional chores for bad behavior.nbsp; I also make them do schoolwork during the summer.
    Stay strong, mean mom.nbsp;
    I wish I could bold the last line. I'm mean too, my older two are almost 12 and 13 and they get 30 minutes free time after school to unwind, then do homework, clean their rooms, one other chore and then dishes after dinner. Weekends they have 3 weekly chores apiece and if they sap my energy with bad behaviour or attitude they earn extra chores.
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