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Angry Screaming

lorist202lorist202 member
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How do I deal with this?

Whenever DS does not get his own way (I tell him "we don't do xyz" and remove him from a situation, or "we can go outside when it's not raining"  for example), he angrily screams, loudly and continuously.

I've tried to redirect him and speak to him calmly, but to no avail.  The screaming can sometimes be multiple times in a morning, and he absolutely does not hesitate in public.

Any suggestions on what I can do about this at his age?

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  • lorist202lorist202 member

    imagemainerocks:
    I have not (yet) had to deal with this, but would ignoring work? GL!

    That's what I've done so far, but it's not getting any better.  I'd like to nip this behavior as early as I can. 

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  • dairygirl19dairygirl19 member

    Ignore. Ignore. Ignore. Distract.

    If LO is really angry I gently put my finger to LOs mouth and say "Shhh..Let's settle." and then humm to her a bit. It distracts and settles her down pretty fast.

    At this age he's still learning how to deal with his anger and being told "NO!" It's the only response he really has. It'll stop when he has more vocabulary to vocalize and then he'll understand why he can't do that when you explain. Right now the concept is still way over the head of the avg. toddler.

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    imagedairygirl19:

    Ignore. Ignore. Ignore. Distract.

    If LO is really angry I gently put my finger to LOs mouth and say "Shhh..Let's settle." and then humm to her a bit. It distracts and settles her down pretty fast.

    At this age he's still learning how to deal with his anger and being told "NO!" It's the only response he really has. It'll stop when he has more vocabulary to vocalize and then he'll understand why he can't do that when you explain. Right now the concept is still way over the head of the avg. toddler.

    Thank you for the great idea.  I already had an opportunity to test it out, and it WORKED!   I'll still pick my battles, but I'm glad it seems I might have something to work with here.  A huge thank you hug!  lol

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  • dougsbestgirldougsbestgirl

    We will either pick up DS or crouch down to his level and ask him "What do you see?  Do you see the ______?"  It helps to distract him and focus his attention on something else quickly. 

    Has worked well so far.  I'm going to keep Dairy's idea to try if our usual method fails though. 

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  • caraleebcaraleeb member
    I am going through this as well, its very sudden and its deff because he cannot communicate how he feels, a lot of times its frustration when he cant do something or get stuck. Thanks for the tips! i do try to calmly talk and then ignore if he continues on.


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  • LoveBug10-09LoveBug10-09
    I think the biggest thing is to not give in. My 13 month old does this, I calmly tell him that there is no need to scream. He will then usually say, "Please." Then, if it is possible, we go do what he wants (tonight, it was to go see the moths by the light outside). All I have to do is look at him now and he stops screaming and says "Down please" or "please" or whatever he wants. It seems to be working for us. Also, distracting him by talking to him will sometimes, though very rarely, work. Once he gets focused on something there is seriously almost NOTHING that will break his focus. So we wait for him to ask nicely. 
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