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Shower guests who weren't invited to recent wedding

aggiesaraaggiesara
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When my DH and I got married, we had a small wedding -- just 60 guests and most of that was family. I had a few friends throw me a shower, and I pretty much invited most of the women who I was closer to who were invited to the wedding to that shower - it ended up being about 25 people there.

Fast forward to now -- By the time the baby comes, we will have been married for about a year and a half, so the shower will be a month or two shy of that.

Obviously I have some friends I'm closer with now than I was then, plus I switched jobs so I have different co-worker friends, but is it bad form to invite people to the baby shower who I didn't invite to my wedding? There are plenty of people I would have loved to invite to the wedding, but didn't because of size/cost concerns. I just am concerned because it was relatively recent.

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  • maiatenemaiatene member
    I dont get how one really relates to the other. Two different life events at two very different times so I would expect the guest list to the baby shower to be different. I dont know the protocol but I think if you are on good terms with them then invite them. However dont invite them just bc you want a big shower and need to get the numbers up.. thats bad business my dear :-)
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  • moonglow_84moonglow_84
    My guideline is, if you'd go to their shower, invite them to yours... doesn't matter if they went to your wedding or not :)  Like you say, things change and you make new friends even over a short period of time.
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  • aggiesaraaggiesara

    No, definitely not trying to get numbers up... it was more about keeping numbers down at my wedding shower because we didn't want a big wedding.

    I suppose I have a few months to sort it out, I just am thinking of a few people who I would have loved to have at my wedding that I'd like to include.

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  • EastCoastBrideEastCoastBride member
    imagemaiatene:
    I dont get how one really relates to the other. Two different life events at two very different times so I would expect the guest list to the baby shower to be different. I dont know the protocol but I think if you are on good terms with them then invite them.
    This.  Wedding showers and weddings are linked.  A baby shower, though, is a totally seperate life event.
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  • graciesmurfgraciesmurf member
    I don't think it matters.  It wouldn't matter to me if I were a guest at your baby shower.
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  • rhubarb123rhubarb123 member
    It doesn't matter if they were invited to the wedding...2 different life events.  The only thing you cannot do is invite someone to a wedding shower and not the wedding - THAT is bad form.  Invite who you want to the baby shower.  BTW...I don't consider "over a year" to be a recent wedding.
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