Adjusting or something else?

luckymom3 · September 2012

DS started preschool two weeks ago for the first time and ever since has been really pushing our buttons. He normally is a pretty ornery little guy - he just turned 4 so I think this is pretty typical- but lately I am ready to rip my hair out.

He had to sit in time out at school twice in one day last week for blowing raspberries in another students face but we had a talk when came home and i was told the next day he did good.

At home, he is not listening to us, doing the opposite of what we ask, yelling, acting like he is going to hit us about everything in his power to disobey. Of course I take my normal disciplinary actions (time outs, removing from the situation, taking privledges away, etc) but he continues to act out.

It seems like he goes 2 weeks of doing the above, then two weeks of being an angel. It just feels ten times worse since he has started school.

So WDYT? Just adjusting to starting school, just being a typical 4 year old, a combination? Have you ever dealt with this? I feel like I am not doing something, or did something wrong. Which, btw I am currently pregnant and that certainly doesn't help my emotions! TIA

Littlejen22 · September 2012

I don't know but we are dealing with it too with DD. DS never did it but he is more eager to please. And my poor DS gets the brunt of it, DD screams at him and is just mean to him, he is older but so nice to her.

ridesbuttons · September 2012

I can tell you that the 6 months before DS1 started JK he was a monster. Wow. Really just a little 40lb jerk who was constantly battling us over every.little.thing. Ugh. Do NOT want to go back to that.

I chalked it up to him being the 'king of the castle' at daycare and not having a sense of the larger world around him. I counted the days until he started JK.

Within a week of him starting JK his attitude started to shift. Suddenly a very, very little fish in a big pond filled with kids bigger than him. The difference was night and day. His teacher was fantastic as well.

I don't have any advice other than stay the course, don't let him get to you and be firm with your decisions and discipline. It will likely pay off even though the short term can be a nasty ride.

Good luck.

luckymom3 · September 2012

THank you guys! I picked him up today and his teacher told me he was in time out twice again today for not keeping his hands to himself.

I just broke down (not in front of DS). I am hormonal and he has been so nasty today I feel like I am failing. Plus I watched the way his teacher interacted with the other kids and I feel like she doesn't like DS. This makes me so sad.

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