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VBAC after a loss

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I don't know if there are any out there but I'm interested in hearing from anyone that has attempted a vbac after a previous loss. My doctor is of the mindset that vaginal birth is safest but, because of my history, there are obviously some concerns and I'm kind of a wild-card candidate.

My previous c-section was an emergency situation for fetal distress. I was 39 weeks, she was head down and I was 80% effaced, 2cm dilated for a few weeks before we went to the ER. She passed away minutes before they had her out. We think it was a cord accident. FYI, my angel was just under 8 lbs. It probably doesn't matter, but I just have this feeling that I would've had a normal birth with her under different circumstances.

Since I didn't go into labor on my own, it's hard to know what to expect this time around. I'd have to go to a different hospital that's about an hour away from our home. We're having a sit-down discussion on this topic with our doctor at our next appt. in a few weeks. I just wanted to know if there was anyone else out there with a story even remotely similar to mine. I'm getting the feeling that my family thinks I'm being ridiculous for even considering this. I am obviously completely open to a RCS if it is medically warranted, but I just hate to be forced into another surgery for the sole purpose of "once a CS, always...". Ultimately I just want to bring my baby home this time, I guess I'm just stressing the unknowns this time.

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  • angelblaze518angelblaze518
    First I am so sorry for your loss, I also had a c-section, but because of heart rate. It was not emergency though. I was 40w 3d. He passed away 5 hours later from hemolytic disease of the newborn. Basically I have the antibody to my husband who passes this blood off to our babies, and my body fights them off:( we are pregnant again, and I also don't want to have a c-section just because i had one last time. I am going to do whatever is best for baby when the time comes. I hope everything works out for you this time around. The only thing that has helped me with the loss, and with this pregnancy is everyones prayers, knowing that my lo is safe and I will see him again someday, and placing this pregnancy in Gods hands and praying for a miracle. 
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  • LbloomLbloom member

    Thank you for your reply and I am sorry for your loss as well. I pray both of us bring our next little ones home.

    I am sure that I don't need to dwell on this, I am open to all possibilities and when it comes down to it, I'm used to things being totally out of my control. I am curious as to whether I can do it successfully, but ultimately, I just want to bring this lil bean home. Good luck to you!

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  • frogs007frogs007
    I'm basically a lurker on this board, but I wanted to comment on your post.  I had an emergency c-section with my twin boys, but they weren't able to revive I (P had already passed), so I didn't bring a baby home either.  I just wanted to wish you good luck on your VBAC (both of you!) I read posts on this board because I'm hoping to have a VBAC with the next baby and it's nice to see someone with a similar situation.  I would love to hear if you are able to have your VBAC.  I'm not pregnant yet, but I'm curious about having a VBAC with all of the paranoia and fear that comes with being a loss mama.  Like you I would be okay having a c/s if my next baby needs it, but I'm scared about all of my emotions making that choice vs. actual need.  Good Luck to both of you (op & pp).  I'm sorry that you both lost babies.
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  • RayRay007RayRay007 member

    I'm sorry for your loss. I haven't had a loss, so I can't imagine the emotions involved in considering a VBAC when you've had a loss. However, I wanted to comment on being a good candidate or not. I was 41w1d when I went in for an NST. I had absolutely no progress before hand. They lost her heart rate on the monitors and literally ran me down the hall into an OR and took her out. Her cord was around her neck and they think contractions were causing it to tighten. Thankfully she was alright. My MW told me right away though that there was no reason I shouldn't be able to VBAC. She said that generally if the c/s was for a 'baby' reason and not a 'mom' reason (eg. decels v. failure to progress), there is no reason to expect it to happen again. I know there will be so much more for you to consider, but I hope this gives some hope.

    ETA: also, me not having had any progress didn't count as a 'mom' reason. My MW was not concerned with that at all.

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