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The ignorance/naivety is gone

HayleyBaker1122HayleyBaker1122 member
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Hey guys...

  Just thinking about how, this miscarriage has made me feel like I can't wait until I can TTC again, but at the same time, I'm dreading it.

  I know that eventually, when I hopefully get a BFP, I'll be a nervous, paranoid wreck for at least the first trimester.

  I'm sure you all relate, but sometimes I just wish I could have had the first baby like most of my friends, who were naive and never really had the "fear" that I know i'll have next time around.

 I feel like those of us who have had a loss are robbed of the initial joy of the next pregnancy because we're no longer naive.

 

 Sorry... I just needed to vent what I've been thinking. I guess when that day comes, we'll just have to take it a day at a time, and know we have others to support and encourage us.

BFP #1 7/15/2012
Natural Miscarriage 8/4/2012 at 7 weeks
BFP #2 10/26/12 - Baby Jack - Due 7/6/13 - Born 6/7/13
(born prematurely at 35w 6d, perfectly healthy with no NICU time needed)
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Re: The ignorance/naivety is gone

  • LunaBug924LunaBug924 member

    I totally understand how you feel, and I'm sorry for your loss. Someone posted a while back that you're not really ready to ttc again until you are more excited about having that baby than you are scared about losing it. Right now, I think we're all scared, but hopefully with time and support, we'll get there.

    BFP#1 8/3/12~EDD 4/1/13~Natural M/C 9/1/12-9w6d 
    BFP#2 5/30/13~EDD 2/3/14~Confirmed CP 5/31/13
    7/12/13 Hysteroscopy & Lap Lysis of Adhesions
    1st Cycle on Clomid Aug '13: BFP#3 8/24/13~EDD 5/3/14
    Hoping Third Time's a Charm!!- IT'S A GIRL!!!! 
    KAYLIE MARIE IS HERE! BORN 5/4/14

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  • km_mdkm_md member
    This is a great place to post this, because I think that we all share the exact same thoughts. I was pretty nervous this time around and ended up with a loss, so I am sure I will be even worse if/when I get pregnant again. I think I will have to just keep telling myself that me being anxious is bad for baby and if it is going to end in a loss, there really isn't anything I can do about it, as hard as that is. 


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  • miakritamiakrita
    Yes.  This.  This times 100.  I know how you feel.  :(
    Mother to 3 angels: D&C May 2006 - My cherry blossom child. TTC since March 2012. BFP March 2012; CP March 2012 - 4 weeks 1 day. BFP July 8, 2012; No HB August 6, 2012 - 8 weeks 2 days. M/C August 21, 2012. Cremated in our backyard 5 days later. Starting charting 10/29/12. Stalk me at My Ovulation Chart
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  • Moschic31Moschic31
    I am right there with you.  I had an ectopic pregnancy back in 2008.  So this time around, I was all nerves, just hoping that the egg had implanted in the uterus like it was supposed to.  I started having ultrasounds at 5 weeks and we were ecstatic when we found out that the egg had stuck in the right place, -only to get the sad news a few weeks later that the heart had stopped.  As much as I want a child, I am dreading the idea right now of getting pg.  It isn't a good feeling to be worried about the "what ifs" and I think it is inevitable for most of us to feel that way right now.  One day at a time.  Much luck to you, and all of us. 
    Ectopic Pregnancy * December 2008 Miscarriage/D&C * June 29, 2012
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  • Cosmic+LoveCosmic+Love member

    I completely understand what you are saying. My husband and I were talking about the same thing this weekend. It is not going to be the same excitement the next go 'round.

    However, I was very nervous this pregnancy and that did not prevent a miscarriage from happening. So, when we get pregnant next I am going to have the motto, "Today I am pregnant and for that I am grateful." It is going to be difficult to squash the doubt and anxiety, but it is a choice that I will make every day.

    "The cleaning, the scrubbing will wait til tomorrow,
    For children grow up, as I've learned to my sorrow.
    So, quiet down cobwebs. Dust go to sleep.
    I'm rocking my baby and babies don't keep."
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  • MrsFunk07MrsFunk07 member

    I am sorry for your loss.

    I feel the same, like I am jealous of those who have not experienced loss. I feel like my innocence has been taken away from me, but it is not something I will get back. I know I will be scared s*#&less (hopefully) next time around.

    All we can do is try to focus on what is positive in our lives, keep trying, and attempt to stay relaxed, no matter how difficult it may be.

    This is always a safe place to vent, and to send & receive support :) 

    Best wishes,

    mrsfunk07 

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