Totally stupid rant, I know.

ImThisBabysMom · September 2012

H took M to see his grandparents. His mom was there. He let her feed M. Ok fine. Maybe sometimes letting others feed her will help her build trust and not cry so much. She cries with anyone who isn't me or H for the most part. But now I know MIL will ALWAYS want/expect to feed her now. I enjoy feeding her and doing things for her. It's gonna annoy me that now EVERY bottle, MIL will want to give her.

babybug11 · September 2012

DH and I have gotten into discussions about this. I only let other people feed her if I honestly can't do it ( like when I am at school), I have explained this to my MIL and she keeps asking to feed her or worse she will stand right next to me and tell LO "NaNa really wishes she could feed her baby"

So, I don't feel like your rant is stupid.

smudgee · September 2012

Thats when I would be like.... Nope. It is my baby, my feeding. Some peoples inlaws (incl. mine) are so demanding. My child. Not yours. I will share moments with you, but not all of them.

MegSowers · September 2012

I'm so glad others feel this way, too. You could try jokingly saying "You're a Nana! You already got your turn to feed your (how-ever-many #) kiddos! Now it's my turn.

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kkfeb04 · September 2012

If DH and I are around during feeding time, we feed. No one else.

mrs+harlow · September 2012

I know what you mean, but I try to see it from the other person's perspective. I feel weird when I see others feeding L, but I think that's instinctual as a mom. In my head I'm always saying " Ugh, he doesn't like that, or you aren't doing this right you need to do it this way".

I don't have the most sane, competent MIL. I have offered to let her feed L, just as I have offered to let my mom have that experience too. I think they both need those moments since with grandchildren it's their last time to feed a baby, you know?

My mom is amazing. I'm not just saying that because she's my mom. She really is. My SIL doesn't let my parents babysit, feed and rarely lets them hold their granddaughter . It really hurts my parents. It hurts me too. Try to see it from the other side, if you can.

SteelCity44 · September 2012

I don't bottle feed, and I completely understand what you're talking about. We visited MIL today, and when Micah got fussy, I told her he was probably hungry. She looked around the room (we brought nothing in the house with us) and said, "Is there a bottle for him?" I've been BFing for 6 months, and every time, she asks if there's a bottle. Nope. He's all mine. Now gimme him back!

She questioned why we're not starting cereal and doing BLW, then proceeded to tell Micah that his parents were crazy. 5 minutes later, I look over, and she's putting something in his mouth. I calmly?? asked her what she put in his mouth. An apple fritter. Please don't put anything in his mouth. If you must give him an apple fritter, hand it to him. He has to put it in his mouth himself. She told me to shut up. I don't think complaining about your MIL stepping on your motherly toes is stupid.

Kdrake8 · September 2012

SteelCity44:
I don't bottle feed, and I completely understand what you're talking about. We visited MIL today, and when Micah got fussy, I told her he was probably hungry. She looked around the room (we brought nothing in the house with us) and said, "Is there a bottle for him?" I've been BFing for 6 months, and every time, she asks if there's a bottle. Nope. He's all mine. Now gimme him back!
She questioned why we're not starting cereal and doing BLW, then proceeded to tell Micah that his parents were crazy. 5 minutes later, I look over, and she's putting something in his mouth. I calmly?? asked her what she put in his mouth. An apple fritter. Please don't put anything in his mouth. If you must give him an apple fritter, hand it to him. He has to put it in his mouth himself. She told me to shut up. I don't think complaining about your MIL stepping on your motherly toes is stupid.

Omg. If my MIL told me to shut up, I would flip the eff out. If you didnt, you are a saint.

SteelCity44 · September 2012

kdrake8:
SteelCity44:
I don't bottle feed, and I completely understand what you're talking about. We visited MIL today, and when Micah got fussy, I told her he was probably hungry. She looked around the room (we brought nothing in the house with us) and said, "Is there a bottle for him?" I've been BFing for 6 months, and every time, she asks if there's a bottle. Nope. He's all mine. Now gimme him back!
She questioned why we're not starting cereal and doing BLW, then proceeded to tell Micah that his parents were crazy. 5 minutes later, I look over, and she's putting something in his mouth. I calmly?? asked her what she put in his mouth. An apple fritter. Please don't put anything in his mouth. If you must give him an apple fritter, hand it to him. He has to put it in his mouth himself. She told me to shut up. I don't think complaining about your MIL stepping on your motherly toes is stupid.
Omg. If my MIL told me to shut up, I would flip the eff out. If you didnt, you are a saint.

It took everything in me to bite my tongue, but DH got a talking to on the way home, since he did nothing about it. He defended that his mother was embarrassed about giving LO the food, and that was her reaction. His whole family is rude, so he doesn't feel that it's his place to fix that.

meglette417 · September 2012

I can't keep my mouth shut most of the time so if my MIL told me to shut up then I would tell her she will never touch my child again. You are a very good person!

mrs+harlow · September 2012

If any family member told me to shut up I think I'd have a hard time controlling myself.

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