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sugarbear0524
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What can I tell her?
sugarbear0524
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My DH has a family member who has a 11 mo LO. She turned his carseat around this week so that he's forward facing. She's said before that it's a "rite of passage" when he turns 1. Not sure why she moved it up to 11 months. She has a 4 year old and did the same thing.
I'm pretty militant about my DS, 16 mo, staying rear facing for as long as possible despite the fact that he is 99th percentile for height. This mama is militant about, well, everything. She is right and you either agree or you're wrong. I know this isn't my child, so I can't dictate anything, but it scares me. I know the stats and have read about all the bad things that can happen to kids who FF too early in an accident.
I want to figure out what to say to her, if anything. She will probably be say "I can't believe J is still rear facing!" I actually hope she does, because I need some kind of opening if I say something. Hoping her pedi says something at the 12 month appointment.
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Re: What can I tell her?
No, she didn't announce it on FB. I saw it in her van.
Started cabergoline 3/2010.
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Daughter born 8/27/11
Eh, I don't think it's any of your business, to be honest. I would stay out of it. I bet there's something that you do that she doesn't agree with either. Is her baby over the weight limit? If it's a big baby and he hates sitting backwards, then maybe she has a good reason to switch the seat. My kids have never minded riding backwards, so we made them sit that way until they were over 2 years old (my kids are also on the small side), but what other people do with their kids is their call. And really, what are the odds that they'll get in a really bad car accident, bad enough for RFing to matter, in the next few weeks?
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In most states it's not a law it's a recommendation to stay RF until 2 years old.
Also if your child is so tall I would check your carseat manual and make sure that it's still ok to have him rearfacing for his height.
If someone said something to me about keeping DS RFing as long as possible, at least I would know that I was doing everything I could to keep him safe in a crash. "The big deal" is that their neck can snap in certain types of accidents if they are FFing - their head goes forward, but their body stays secured by the car seat, and their skull separates from their spine. It's called internal decapitation. To me, that's a REALLY big deal.
I'm a good driver. I never had a car accident. I never thought it would happen to me.
And then I had a terrible one when DS was three months old. If he hadn't been properly secured, he would have been killed.
I did this too. Both of my kids. I have done the research, I have talked to my cousin (who is a police officer and is Car Seat Certified as the car seat safety inspector in his township) who turned all three of his children at 1, my pedi didn't say that either way was wrong or right when asked. Every other month, I travel a 5.5 hour trip with my kids, alone, and my child HATES being rear facing. It was a matter of my sanity and being able to concentrate and get us to our destination safely without having to pull over after every 15 minutes of pure screaming. I would much rather have her forward facing and travel happily then to pull over - me and my two daughters - in an unknown area because I had to hop in the back to calm her down. NO WAY. I tried switching it back once I returned home and she wasn't having it. I appreciate everyone's concern, but if anyone was to blatantly point the fact out to me, they would get an earful. It isn't ignorance on my part, it is what works best for us and my LO. Now that the AAP has come out recommending that all boys get circumcised, when are people going to start telling people that they shouldn't do it?!?
My opinion is keep it to yourself. I don't understand why everyone feels the need to tell other people. If people choose to be informed about things, they will do so on their own accord.
Quite honestly, I was kinda shocked that this was his response to me also. I went to him to ask him his advice not only in his capacity as a tech, but as a police officer/EMT who has witnessed a countless number of car accidents and personal experience since he does have three children. I know if it was anyone else (i.e., not related) he would give them the recommendation.
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Hmmm...if someone said something to me about a totally uneducated and irresponsible decision that I was making that was endangering my child, I'd thank them, not slap them.
Some babies are born at 5 lbs and less. So, if they're 10 lbs, they can be turned around? This is among the dumbest things I've ever heard.
I'm kind of like you, though. Not confrontational. I cringe when I see car seats turned early, but I mind my own business.