Let's talk about sex, bay-bee

fyziksgirl · September 2012

I apologize for the title. I amuse myself.

How is everyone else's libido doing? Mine sucks. And that sucks. I had pelvic floor issues that made sex painful before DD, so it wasn't great then. I was hoping after things were stretched out a bit it would get less painful, but the few times we've tried it's been painful in a different way b/c I heal very slowly. So my body is not super enthused about doing something that feels bad.

Does sex and/or lady bits still hurt for anyone else? Libido not back? I'm wondering how off-the-curve I am and if I should contemplate getting help again or if this is relatively normal and I should just wait it out. *sigh*

NatPhoto09 · September 2012

my libido is low due to exhaustion but it doesn't hurt anymore. it hurt for 6 months with DS#1. I would say the more practice the less pain, hopefully. GL

kkchisholm · September 2012

Do you do yoga? I think it would really help with pain!

bellelamb · September 2012

Mine hasn't been the same in years I've been pregnant or nursing for 31 months straight. There is time I want it but I enjoy foreplay much more at this point, and dh is very sweet about that. We only even fool around maybe twice a month, who has time with 3 kids 2u2?

tjkdlhb · September 2012

bellelamb:
Mine hasn't been the same in years I've been pregnant or nursing for 31 months straight. There is time I want it but I enjoy foreplay much more at this point, and dh is very sweet about that. We only even fool around maybe twice a month, who has time with 3 kids 2u2?

LOL We've only got one kid, and we've only fooled around twice since we had her! You're doing much better than us Stick out tongue

bornmommy · September 2012

I've actually wanted to have sex a handful of times since DS was born but have given in to DH much more than that. It still hurts! I keep meaning to call my midwife to get checked out but forgetting...

ELF4321 · September 2012

The only time I have any interest is the day or two before I ovulate. We've only done it 2x so far because I wasn't cleared for it until 10 weeks due to not healing well.

Stench99 · September 2012

I thought that since I had a c-section I would bypass the pain, ha! It hurts sooooo bad that I just don't look forward to it. My libido is there, but just hate the pain.

JulesFo · September 2012

Are you breastfeeding? That also lowers your libido since your estrogen levels are so much lower. In any event, low libido is certainly common with a 3 month old! Doesn't sound like you have anything to worry about.

This time, things don't hurt but sex was very painful for awhile after my first was born.

kgauntt · September 2012

I wouldn't mind it, but it just doesn't work very well. Still hurts and I feel like I've lost all sensitivity.

IgnatusDem · September 2012

DH and I are lucky to get it in once a week. But since he's started school I see him maybe 2 hours a day and I usually take that chance to hand off DS and take a shower.

stemms8810 · September 2012

Before my 6 week pp check-up I couldn't wait to have sex again. Now I can take it or leave it, go figure. We have sex about once a week, sometimes twice. My libido sucks too. Sex doesn't hurt but I think because I am so tired, it's hard for me to want it by the time we go to bed. I am hoping in a couple months I will get my drive back!

Jinnifah · September 2012

Sex is pretty good for me in the moment, but afterwards the are hurts like a *** for hours. So that doesn't help the cause.
I'd also rather be sleeping

tarajayne · September 2012

We have done it twice since the boys were born. Basically that is twice in the last year... Poor DH. We are almost always too tired to but the 2 times it did hurt a bit but I think it's just going to because we don't do it very often.

MelissaMiso · September 2012

The only thing holding me back is the horrific thumb/wrist pain (dequervain's tedonitis aka "mommy's thumb"). I can't imagine just lying there like a sack o' potatoes but even the thought of holding myself up in any position or doing anything that will torque my wrists just makes me wince. Grrrrr

picklesx · September 2012

I have had a low sex drive for years.

We never had sex during any point of my pregnancy, the last time before finding out I was KU being the day after our successful IUI. Since that time we have only had sex believe it or not twice. Twice in over a year. I was very afraid to do it while pregnant and since LO was born I have absolutely no interest. Dh and I have fought about it several times over the past few months because he wants to and the thought of sex in general repulses me actually.

bellelamb · September 2012

MelissaMiso:
The only thing holding me back is the horrific thumb/wrist pain dequervain's tedonitis aka "mommy's thumb". I can't imagine just lying there like a sack o' potatoes but even the thought of holding myself up in any position or doing anything that will torque my wrists just makes me wince. Grrrrr

There are so many positions that you can have some control w/o holding yourself up. I'd google it!

Heather2256 · September 2012

We've tried once w/ a major fail. Then I started my period 4+ weeks ago & it has yet to stop. (Thank you hormones & depo shot!) So we don't even have anything going on!

PotomacSt · September 2012

I'd have a libido if I wasn't so exhausted all the time.

We first attempted it at 6 weeks and it was a fail, 8 weeks was a success although it hurt a LOT at first. Every time after that hurt a little less, and only for the first couple minutes, than it was fine.

I was actually way more interested in sex while I was on maternity leave. I went back to work at 14 weeks full-time and was doing good to have enough energy to shave my legs at the end of the day. Now that I'm working part-time, maybe it'll get better.

dcariatgirl · September 2012

Lol...absolutely no interest, plus I am so afraid of getting pregnant again!

rubber_chicken · September 2012

Uh, we still haven't had it.

I was ready after my 6 week checkup, but DH said he wanted to wait a couple more weeks. And we haven't discussed it since...

picklesx · September 2012

rubber_chicken:
Uh, we still haven't had it.nbsp; I was ready after my 6 week checkup, but DH said he wanted to wait a couple more weeks.nbsp; And we haven't discussed it since...

Oh man I wish that was the case for me! DH won't stop bitching about it.

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