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and I was doing so well till tonight... (pg mentioned)

MamaWomatMamaWomat member
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So, it's been exactly a week since I found out for sure that I had miscarried, and three weeks since the process started.  I was doing pretty well, really. A bit of a pang at seeing a co-worker at an event on Wednesday, who is just starting to show, but mostly okay.  

And then I went on Facebook a few minutes ago and saw only lovely, lovely photos of an old friend who is due very soon...followed by a post from another friend announcing she has reached 20 weeks and will found out her baby's sex soon.  And then I burst into tears.

 It's not that I want to be jealous of them.  I desperately hope to be joining them again, soon.  And whining "it's not fair" is just stupid, because I know fairness has nothing to do with it. But it's not fair! And I am jealous. And, and...I really don't know what else...

 

 

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  • HayleyBaker1122HayleyBaker1122 member

    I totally understand. I have many pregnant friends/family members. I'm happy for them, but at the same time it's really hard to see them and not tear up or get jealous. It's just natural in this healing process.

     Praying for you!

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  • LunaBug924LunaBug924 member
    I think you're totally justified in how you feel. This isn't something that will ever go away. People say it gets better with time, but I don't believe that. Time will never make the situation better. WE will get better with time, but this will always suck, and once in a while, we will feel the hurt. The best way I've been able to deal is by reaching out to the women on this board. Hope you have a better day tomorrow. One day at a time....
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  • jonahsmajonahsma member

    mamawomat,

     I know how you feel. It had been 1 wk that i had a d &c and a week and a half that everything started. I had my moments the first week especially at night when it was time for bed. I tried to push the memory so far back in my head to somehow convince myself that this had never happened, i had never taken a test and i had never lost my baby. I was fine for a while, until i went in for my 1 week po appt this past wed. I started to feel anxious as i drove up to the office and i even gave my self a peptalk " you will be ok, sign in and wait to be called. As soon as i walked up a pg girl walked up at the same time. She was probably about 6-7 months pregnant. I thought, :"oh wow, I will never make it that far"  I walked in and the room was full of pg women in different stages of pregnancy I checked in and it took everything in me to not burst out in tears. I bit, my lip and tried not to make contact with anyone. I waklked to the private area with my head down and burst into tears. I was literally empty , I was no longer carrying my baby . i was empty, while everyone else was carrying a child one that would be born soon . so yes , you have the right to feel the way you do, it isn't  FAIR . but the opportunity will come around again . You will have the joy of feeling your growing baby . Dont lose the faith , for FAITH CAN MOVE MOUNTAINS

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  • km_mdkm_md member
    I am so sorry for your loss. I too am noticing that my emotions are up and down. I'll think that I'm okay, and then something will upset me and I start crying. And anyone on this board will tell you that it is so hard to feel/show your happiness for someone else when you just experienced a loss. It isn't fair! But I just am trying to think positively - there is obviously a reason that my loss happened, and who knows what other women have gone through in order to get their babies, etc. I wish you the best. 


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  • JerkStore213JerkStore213 member
    I hear ya. I feel like everywhere I go, everybody is pregnant. I log on to Facebook, there are five ppl posting ultrasounds announcing pregnancies. I shut that off and go outside, pregnant women everywhere. It sucks. I guess the only thing we can do is be patient. Hugs to you!
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  • fitzbetsfitzbets

    I deleted Facebook from my phone and iPad. It seemed like every time I logged on it was baby baby baby. I'm so happy for these people. I really am. I just don't need it in my face all the time.

     My brother & sister in law were here with their baby for the weekend and it was hard to just be around her!  I love that sweet little thing but I couldn't hold her. I hope I didn't upset my in-laws but I just couldn't. Do what you've got to do for now!  Hugs to you. I'm so sorry for your loss. 

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