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Charm bracelet

LosingHope123LosingHope123
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My husband and I decided that he is going to get a pandora charm bracelet for me to have as a memory of the babies we lost.  I found these beautiful charms online from England.  It has an angel wing, a crystal that you can have made any color- (birthstone for EDD) and a little tag that you can engrave... the example picture says "an angel's mommy".    I was so excited for this because I felt it was a way for me to remember without having to think about it all of the time..

Well..

Today I told my mother in conversation and she got really quiet.  An hour later she said "So whose idea was this bracelet".  I said it was mine but that my husband thought it was a good idea.  She said "I think you are forcing yourself to rememeber and if you don't forget and move on and you are going to just keep being depressed".  WHAT?  Seriously?? I turned to her and said "Mom... I'm never going to forget this... this was my last chance and I lost two.  These two pregnancies are my only biological children...

I am so hurt I could cry! now I feel like I am doing the wrong thing by getting this bracelet.. I hate that I care what other people think...

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  • LindsayloulouLindsayloulou
    Don't feel that way.  I have a charm I'm getting for my Pandora bracelet.  Do whatever helps in YOUR healing process, and screw everyone else.  I hate to say that but some people have no couth!
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  • km_mdkm_md member
    I am so sorry for all of your struggles, and by looking at your signature, I'd say that this bracelet is very important to you. I can say that it might not be something that everyone would do, but everyone grieves differently. I think that you should just go ahead with what you and your DH have talked about. If it gives you some peace, it is absolutely worth it, whether someone else thinks so or not. I wish you the best.


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  • MrsFunk07MrsFunk07 member

    I am so sorry for your losses.

    It is really important that you honor your losses in your own way. 

    Sending you positive thoughts and hugs,

    mrsfunk07 

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  • AmeliaKrisAmeliaKris member
    Remember and celebrate those little lives. Whatever way you want to do it is up to you and your husband and no one else. We named our baby. I know there are people out there that probably think I am nuts. But I don't care. Its my choice and it gives me closure. I wanted my baby to have an identity. You go get your charm bracelet. To heck with what others think. Sorry some people just don't get it. Hugs to you.
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  • texasgirl76texasgirl76 member
    Aw,don't feel bad!! The charm bracelet is a great idea!! I went through the Arbor Day Foundation and you can get a tree planted as a memorial for your LO's. Even if you didn't get the bracelet you'll still think about it. As for myself I think about  it everyday and I don't see that going away...ever!!. I think doing something in remembrance of your LO's is also helpful in healing emotionally. Do what feels good for you. Not everyone will understand and everyone will have an opinon( at least in my family;))
    Daisypath - Personal pictureDaisypath Anniversary tickers Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers Momma to 1 angel D&C August 2012
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  • fitzbetsfitzbets
    I think it sounds like a lovely idea. No one can tell you how to grieve.  Hugs to you.  I'm so sorry for your loss.
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