how many kids do u want

nikkks84 · September 2012

this is my first.. i will definitely have one more. will start trying after my son turns 2. sometimes i think i want a third but my husband is against it. he says only two.

what is your plan. how many do u want or is your family complete. do you and ur DH always agree upon how many children u guys want to have.

also what are u doing for contraception. I am getting a paragard later this month .

acbfreire · September 2012

We would like two kids 2-3 years apart, but it will depend on the circumstance$. If it doesn't happen, I feel complete. DH definitely wants another one.

Starbear06 · September 2012

I've always thought I would have two kids. But after going through this the first time I just don't know if I can go through it again. It wasn't the pregnancy or ld that was hard, it was the emotional journey I went through PP that I don't know if I would be able to handle. People say you tend to forget those days but I guess I still haven't forgotten yet.

amberleeb · September 2012

I would like one more, so 3. We are not doing anything to prevent. When #3 is born DH will get the snip snip unless for some reason I would need a c section (had 2 vaginal births) then I would get a tubal.

Sawyerplus1 · September 2012

We're thinking about having one more, making a total of 4. We think maybe we'll think about it more seriously around DS2s first birthday. We currently use NFP for birth control. Neither of us plan to ever do anything to permanently prevent.

RioG1978 · September 2012

This is our first, and I am having such a wonderful time I kind of want 3 now. The plan is two for sure (if all goes as planned), so I would decide for sure once #2 is here (we won't be trying for a year or so).

I'll be 35 in February, though, so 3 kids are not likely in our future. I believe DH only wants 2 anyway.

Samiantha101 · September 2012

We're hoping for at least one more biological child. If it's a boy, we'll prob stop at two. If not, we'll go for three and then stop. We plan to adopt once our bio children are a bit older. It will prob be just one adopted child. Im not using any contraceptive. We're letting nature take its course. With that said, I'm a little nervous about the possibility of conceiving right away.

jamiah18 · September 2012

We just have one but would like one more. Ideally we'd like to keep them somewhat close in age. We will start trying when dd is around 9 months. At least that's the plan right now!!:
Although just like samiantha...if lo2 is a girl, we may try for a third so we can have a boy. I guess time will tell!!

mkflower3000 · September 2012

Definitely 2 - I HATED being an only child. We're probably gonna start trying after DD turns 2 or so. Depending on how that goes and where life is, I might be OK with a 3rd, although I would also like to adopt someday if we have the means.

mylittlesunshine · September 2012

DH and I go back and fourth if we want a 3rd or not. The biggest thing is financially. If we do have a 3rd, it wouldn't be until DD1 is out of daycare. We couldn't afford to put 3 children in FT daycare and we depend on both of us working at this time so having one of us SAH isn't an option.

Right now though, babies are nowhere near our radar. DD2 had bad reflux and mspi issues which weren't diagnosed until she was over a month old. It was a very trying two months with her that were filled with LOTS of crying and screaming.

As far as contraception, we are using condoms. I would like to stay away from hormonal birth control while nursing and getting an IUD kinda scares me. We did just fine doing condoms while I was nursing DD1 so we chose to do it this time around as well. We did try NFP after I was done nursing DD1 (about 1.5 years after she was born) and had a surprise pregnancy (which sadly ended in m/c), so I don't think we will go down that road unless we are ok with the possiblity of that 3rd.

abbyhannah8 · September 2012

We want three for sure and if we end up having three girls we are both open to the possibility of trying for a boy! I want my kids close in age so I think we are going to try again either when LO turns 9 months or wait until she is 1.

caeraRose · September 2012

We only have the one now, but we want four total. We're planning on spacing them about 3 years apart. I'm getting an IUD put in soon.

FutureMrsFezz · September 2012

One a done. Stick out tongue

strawberrytree · September 2012

We want 4- except if we have 4 boys, will possibly try again for a girl depending on how things are going. I love DS but the thought of four boys is terrifying to me, so I sure hope there is at least one girl in there somewhere. (I find the thought of 4 girls equally terrifying.)

We are just using the pull out method for now, since we want 2u2. My period isn't back yet, so if that is still the case after Christmas we will start trying anyway. I'm not interested in using hormonal birth control.

SugarhillHnA · September 2012

We've always hoped to have 3, but now that I have two I could totally see us having a fourth if we were younger and richer. We'll definitely try for a third, but I doubt a 4th will happen. I honestly don't know if my body could handle two more pregnancies (they would be my 4th and 5th babies- I had a teenage pregnancy) as I am getting older and I had insulin dependent GD this time. I know I may or may not get GD again, but with the age gap we prefer of at least 2 years that would mean having a pregnancy after 35 and I don't know how we feel about that all things considered with my health and that of any potential baby's. I know many moms over 35 have successful healthy pregnancies, but I'm not sure how we'd feel about that for us.

We do NFP to TTA and TTC. DH will get the snip once we decide we're done baby making.

parenthood4 · September 2012

We probably want 3. I come from a biggish family, and have always wanted a bunch. I don't think we could afford more than 3 though. We'll see how everything works out!

I'm thinking we will start trying again in April. I want our kids fairly close together. We're just using the good old pull and pray method for now, because it wouldn't be a big deal if it happened.

daisy080187 · September 2012

I want 4, DH wants to submit me to the psych ward... we have 1 now a boy, DH said if the next one is a girl he'd be fine with stopping if the next is a boy try 1 more time for sure.. I would love to start trying around DS 1st birthday!! DH is worried bout money he promised me if he wins the lottery I can have my 4 kids! lol!

alizabethanne · September 2012

FutureMrsFezz:
One a done.

I think this is us too... we only have plans for one.

We'll see how year one goes first!

lemon.sarie · September 2012

We're at 3 now, and I always said I wanted 4. But definitely longer spacing for the next one. OH is not sure if he wants another or not, but we'll see how we feel in a few years.

violajack · September 2012

I'm having so much fun and I'm so in love with my first that I want to have as many as my body will let me. However, we live in San Francisco, so space and money are tight and we'll likely stop at 2 I'm pushing for 3, and I know families who have managed 4 or 5 even here, but I'm already 32, so I think even getting 3 would be difficult. I don't really want to try a pregnancy too late in my 30s and definitely not after 40.

We'll probably try again when DS is a year old. I want to let my body focus on making milk for this guy for his first year, then I can try to start building another baby. We're going with condoms for now. I thought I was fine with the pill, but I felt so much better when I stopped taking it that I don't want to do anything hormonal again, and I don't want an IUD, so it's condoms until I have a chartable cycle again.

JessieCupcake · September 2012

I used think I'd be fine with two but after having my DS, I'm leaning toward three. My DH has said he'd like four so we'll see what happens!

As for birth control we're using condoms since I can't be on hormonal birth control. We're planning to wait two years before TTC.

AshleyT121 · September 2012

If I could be guaranteed that all my babies would be like this one, I'd have a whole bunch. Realistically, we want at least 1 more, probably 2.

kincaid44 · September 2012

I think I would like to have 4 (2 more). One of my own, and one adopted. However my husband only wants 3 (no more of our own and one adopted). So either way we will end up with at least 3! As far as contraception, we are only using condoms until we make our final decision about children. And then we will either have another or my husband will have a vasectomy.

GracieBlue · September 2012

We want two - so one more. We are not doing anything to prevent right now - ideally I would like them to be 1.5 years apart - but whatever happens - happens. My only hope is for a boy next time - dh already has a grown daughter and now this one. I would love for him to have a son

jasminelorraine20 · September 2012

I want one more when DS is at least 4 years old. My SO already has a daughter, so hopefully I'll have another boy!

kdjudd · September 2012

I would like to have five kids. I personally would like to give birth to four and then once they are older I would like to adopt a special needs child! I have a huge burden in my heart for children with mental handicaps.

DH and I just use condoms and cycle beads for contraception. I struggle with chronic depression so I didn't want anything that messes with my hormones. Also, I'm very pro-life and I don't want to risk there being even the slightest chance of an accidental abortion.

thatoneredhead · September 2012

We were kinda on the fence but pregnancy was so insanely hard on my body that there is no way I would be up for it again.

Lo will be one loved little guy.... Cause hes it!

Woo woo for Mirena!

Candace52309 · September 2012

We actually havent decided on how many kids. We decided that whatever God blesses us with, is what it will be. I guess you could call us crazy. We both would love to have more, but we would be satisfied with what we have. Once being told you cant have your own, and then being blessed with one makes you extremely grateful for what you have.

Personally I would love to have at least 3 or 4 and I know DH would love to have more than that. As far as planning, we are continuing with NFP. If we get pregnant again, terrific, if not, then we prob will continue the adoption process we had began right before we found out we were pregnant.

sam19 · September 2012

Two. Which is why I got my tubes tied.

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