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Baby Milestones Panic

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As you can see in my siggy, I have three little boys. My 6 year old has Asperger's and my 3 year old has PDD-NOS. We also have a sweet little 7 month old boy who is causing this mama to panic. 

R, the baby, reminds us SO much of our oldest.  In a lot of ways, he is displaying very precocious development.

He eat his solids like it is his job, but only if he can feed himself. He also drinks like a champ from a straw cup already.

He is crawling all over the place, but that is not good enough. Dude wants to walk so badly. He is pulling up on everything and cruising around and he is thisclose to being able to stand up in the middle of the floor with nothing to pull up on! He can already stand on his own for a few seconds without falling.

He is purposefully saying mama, dada, hi and nigh nigh. At first, I let myself be blissfully ignorant and chalked it up to him babbling.  As I paid attention though, I realized he is purposefully saying mama to me, purposefully saying dada to daddy and only saying nigh nigh when it is time to sleep.

I should be happy, right? But no, instead I am freaking out.  Early gross motor and language development scare the panties off me due to what that meant in my oldest son.  

Today I was in the waiting room with my middle son waiting for his feeding therapist.  There was a baby about a month older than my son pointing and waving.  That only added to my panic.  My son hasn't even attempted to do either of these things.  

In addition he is an awful sleeper, I have found him avoiding eye contact and when I say his name, I see him react, but he doesn't look at me.  I KILLS me every time these things happen.

As I am writing this, I realize how ridiculous this all is.  My son is progressing nicely, and as we all know, baby milestones are far from a science.  Why, oh why do I have be in a panic? I hate that this unknown is just lingering over us.   

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    Not saying you should be worried, but in your situation I absolutely would be parsing out every little anything. Given your family hx, of course you're looking for zebras.

    It is impossible not to. I also have him participating in an at risk infants research study.  He will have a Development Ped looking at his development at 6, 9, 12 and 15 months.  If they see anything of concern, they will immeadiately refer us to EI and help us to convince EI to enroll. 

    LOL, on the purposeful speech. DS's dev pedi asked for a video of him as an infant for some autism study (an oldie based on turning over in bed). He played it and realized DS was saying "hi" purposefully at about 10 weeks. DH and I never even noticed at the time. He did have 2 word phrases at 6 months. Of course, everyone in my family spoke early and often, so I wasn't alarmed.

    It is funny you should say that... Somewhere during R's third month, my 6 year old (who interestingly started talking very early, like your son and has only ever pronounced two words incorrectly in his life) started noticing that R was mimicking our sounds almost exactly.  I would say something and then R would make sounds back at us that exactly mimicked the sentance or phrase I just said.  He has been purposefully saying "hi" for at least a few months now.  Just last week, I was walking through the house with him.  As we came around the corner, my husband was sitting at the computer desk in the living room, and R said clear as day, "hi, dada." That was the first time he strung two words together that we know of for sure. 

    When my oldest son had language development like R does now, I really didn't think anything of it.  I just assumed he was a super smart little kid when he was talking in paragraphs at 15 months.  Now, I know too much for that blissfull ignorance.  LOL!

    Mine pointed and waved by 9 months and still has an AS dx.

    My oldest pointed and waved at about 8-9 months, but my middle guy still was not when we first had him evaluated at 15 months.  In fact, that was one of the big indicators for us to make the decision to have him evaluated.  I think that is why it was like a kick in the gut when I saw the other little baby doing that already.  It is something that is just too close to home. 

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    On the other hand, my DS who has ASD dx, was delayed in all aspects of his development right from the start. crawled late, rolled over late, talked late, walked late, sat up late, refused solids until 10-11 months old. DS being our first, we never really thought much about it then and our pedi swuashed our concerns too with wise ass anecdotes about normal age range for milestones. Anyways, I just wanted to say I had no clue early development signaled potential issues! We can't win with ASD dx is it? 

    However, I sincerely hope everything is OK with your little one.  

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