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Jenny952
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Hey guess what? CIO is ok!!!
Jenny952
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I'm not sure if anyone caught the 2-minute clip on the NBC nightly news last night, but they informed America that CIO is actually ok. Apparently all of us who are in the AP world are idiots for thinking that letting our kids CIO is going to damage them and that by age 5, all kids are the same. So, ladies, tonight just drop the baby in the crib and have a margarita on the porch. No biggie, the news says we can. The kid won't remember anyway, right??!! 
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Re: Hey guess what? CIO is ok!!!
I saw this and gave it major side-eyeage.
While I haven't read the study referenced, what struck me from the newscast was that they were comparing two different types of sleep training, which isn't exactly CIO vs. non-CIO. Also, not at all sure what their criteria was for measuring the biological impact years down the line, seems like that would be extremely difficult to quantify, not to mention, possibly not the point to begin with.
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Totally misleading and sensationalist headline; the article had nothing to do with hard-core, "babywise" style CIO; it only suggested that letting a baby CIO for a few minutes, or under parental supervision was OK.
I *** hate the media news outlets. Thanks to them now child abusers and negligent parents everywhere are feeling pretty good about themselves.
Oh, FFS. I am so tired of this BS. The "dangers" of CIO are over stated and the assumption that people who use the method are selfish and hate their children is ridiculous.
And, no, I did not see the newscast or read the study. I am specifically responding to the OP.
This. I consider our style of "parenting" to be pretty attachment-style, but at 5 months old, we moved our daughter out of our room into her own room and did the increasing-intervals of comfort sleep training. It sucked for 2 nights. On the third night she pretty much stopped crying and went right to sleep after a few minutes. From the fourth night til today, as a general rule, she goes to bed drowsy but awake at 8 PM and sleeps until 4:00 AM, when she wakes up for a feeding, and then goes back down til around 6 or 6:30 AM.
She is a different person since we have done this--so happy and well rested during the day. Tons of smiles and noises. Before we sleep trained, she just wasn't getting good, restful, sufficiently-long blocks of sleep in our room with all the noises of three people sleeping. Am I glad that we co-roomed with her for the first few months? Yes, because it is shown to reduce the risks of SIDS. But by the time we moved her to her own room and did sleep training, it was time for that. And we did it for her own needs and she is happier because of it.
People who are super dramatic about the "dangers" of CIO probably haven't read the brain development books that show babies really need long blocks of sleep where they process through 2-3 sleep cycles before waking. When our LO was in our room, she would pretty much wake up every 45 minutes at the end of each sleep cycle--not healthy!
You can practice attachment parenting and sleep train. It is not an either/or dichotomy.
This totally
Wait, you're saying that people who use a CIO method are child abusers and negligent parents? I can't feel right about allowing my children to CIO without me there and so I don't. But that's a far cry from thinking that those who do are abusing their children. You've taken that too far.
How I read her post is that negligent parents would use the headline to "validate" the way they are doing things, people who are neglecting their kids. I didn't get the CIO is neglect.
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I didn't see this on the news, and I'm glad I didn't. As someone who has read primary research (on different topics) I've seen enough how media can portray something that I really don't spend to much time on sensationalized studies.
What just happened in my diaper?!