Hi,
We have decided to go a non-traditional route with a "shower"; instead, we are having a (co-ed) party to celebrate the upcoming arrival of our first baby. We will be having a Tapas and Sangria themed party. I need help with invitation wording. Thoughts? Thanks!
Re: Non-traditional shower invite wording
This.
Because its rude to throw yourself a gift giving event.
Sorry, I should have clarified...we are not throwing it ourselves. We just came up with the idea. So, yes, we are expecting gifts.
I just don't want people to be confused since everyone seems to expect the typical shower.
In that case, just let the style of the invitation reflect the flair you are going for. Instead of doing baby pink or blue blocks or sheeps or whatever on the invites, they could be vibrantly colored or black and white and a little more sophisticated. They should still word it the same, though. "Please come to a baby shower for Tatiana and Bill!" You don't have to announce the menu.
I'd let the hosts worry about the wording.
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
What kind of a$$holes do you associate with that would be visibly miserable at a babyshower?
FAIL. Explore the board, or just run on out.
Best observation of the day.
So... I know how you feel Tatiana, I am a bit of a control freak and im not a big fan of themed parties, so what i did was help my best friend with picking out the decorations and her and i did the invitations together, but like games and rsvps and actually hosting the party will be on her.. so yeah when we were making the invitations (last week) i was doing most of the research, and trying to find ideas about text ... there is nothing wrong with helping out the host
dont feel bad 
Ok, so, it's a traditional shower in that someone else is throwing it for you and gifts are welcomed, it's just non-traditional in the sense that instead of cutesy baby decor/themes it's going to be tapas and Spanish decor/themes?
In that case, I would agree with PPs that it's not necessary to mention it, but if you want to then the invitation design is going to be the way to go. Do either of you have Spanish heritage? Maybe you could do a little nod towards "come celebrate our baby and our heritage". But I don't think you need to mention it won't be like all other baby showers. Those guests who are sick of that kind of thing will be pleasantly surprised; but I very highly doubt that those you love and care about will turn down the invitation just because they don't like baby showers, so you have nothing to worry about
Thanks! I am not afraid people would ever turn it down. I just wanted people to understand that it's more of like a cocktail party, not a full on dinner. All the baby showers I have been to have been a sit down type setting.
Ummmm...at past showers I have been to that are just sit down, get food, play games, watch gifts being opened, yes, people do not seem to be enjoying themselves. These are not necessarily people I associate with. Everyone just looks so bored. I want dancing, etc. Well, that's the culture I come from, so maybe that has something to do with it.
I think is it perfectly ok this day-and-age to host your own baby shower...and expect gifts.
I am also planning on doing a sangria (and mimosa) shower. I am working on the wording now. Have you had any luck?
You would be sorely mistaken, then. (Referring to your first statement, can't bold from my phone)
Then you are completely delusional.
Some people like to help ease the burden that their friends very graciously take on when throwing a shower. Get over yourself already.