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Pre-School and Daycare
Too much change....even I'm crying
There have been a lot of changes in DD#1 life recently. DH, who is a teacher, just went back to work, I went back to work 4 months ago after a year of mat leave, DD started school, and the same week she started school they switched her to a new room at daycare.
Needless to say she is overwhelmed as are we. She has been crying at daycare and at school each day. On a side note I'm extremely mad at her daycare provider! Long story short they switched her to a new room with older kids and new teachers without even telling us or her nor did they do a "transition" period which is suppose to be mandatory. They screwed up and tried to cover it up but DD ended up being the one to suffer. I've contacted the director and she says she will make it right but regardless it's still really hard on DD.
DD has been crying at home and acting up a little bit. I've talked to her and told her it's okay to be sad. We talk about her new school and new friends and try to be positive. To be honest though I don't blame her for being upset. It would be nice if she didn't have to go back and forth from daycare to school but her school is only every other day so there is no choice.
For the first few days at school she didn't cry until around lunch time but this morning she started crying (quietly...which is worse in my opinion) while lining up to head in with her teacher. I gave her one extra hug, smiled, and told her I loved her and to have a good day. When I started walking back home I couldn't help myself and started crying and I'm not a crier. I just feel so incredibly bad for her and feel like there is nothing I can do to help her. She is a quiet shy little girl who takes some time to warm up to people and situations.
I know she will eventually be fine and find her place and routine but it just really sucks right now. I find myself saying I should've done this and that instead, like putting her in an all day everyday school so she didn't have to go back and forth, insisting that the daycare put her back in her old room for the time being, and so on. I'm actually loosing sleep worrying about her and feeling bad for her. She has such a free spirit and for the time being it's been a bit crushed.
Thanks for listening. It feels good to get it out.
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Re: Too much change....even I'm crying
Aw man, that is sad.
Starting kindy is tough on many young kids. It is a big transition.
Don't beat yourself up about the decisions you've made to date. They were certainly well thought out with your DD best interest at heart, yes?
It's hard to see our little ones learn some tough lessons in life, but it is good for them to learn that some things are hard, that things change and that life isn't static.
Hang in there, it'll get better soon.
Oh, man! I hear ya! One of the most challenging parenting times in my life was the school year that my youngest started K and I went back to teaching.
I basically went from being a SAHM to working FT. It was a HUGE transition for our whole family. I just felt so guilty every time I said goodbye to the kids and then guilty again every time I rushed out of work to come home and pick them up. I still feel bad every time I can't chaperone a field trip or help with a class party (which I used to do all the time.)
I really had to remind myself that: 1) I have a right to have a professional life, and 2) it's not going to hurt them to become a little more independent and have more structure in their days. They're getting bigger, and I stayed home with them for a while.
Those first few months of our new life seemed SO hard, but we got through it and we're all adjusted and happy (and really happy that mom has an income now, and we can afford to do fun stuff again!)