Intro - Staying Positive

Cosmic+Love · September 2012

Good morning all,

DH and I were so excited to get our first ever BFP on Sept. 3. A very nice dark line which we confirmed the next day with a digital test. We had a vacation scheduled for later in the week to Sedona, AZ and the Grand Canyon and spent the trip discussing our exciting future.

On the long plane ride from AZ back to MA yesterday, I used the restroom and noticed quite a bit of blood; cramping got progressively worse. By the time our flight landed, it was certain that I was miscarrying. My first dr.'s appt. was scheduled for today anyways. They confirmed with an ultrasound that there was no sign of a pregnancy. We are waiting on the blood test to confirm.

I do feel lucky to have a supportive husband and we are trying to stay positive. I just feel so guilty that I could have done something differently to prevent this.

jess123456 · September 2012

I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. Please know that there is absolutely nothing that you could have done to stop this from happening. You are not alone and we are always here to listen.

MeenaJo · September 2012

I'm so sorry for your loss! It's great that you and your DH are trying to stay positive! Don't feel guilty at all, there was nothing you could have done to prevent it and nothing you could have done to cause it. T&P for you!

Cosmic+Love · September 2012

jess123456:
I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. Please know that there is absolutely nothing that you could have done to stop this from happening. You are not alone and we are always here to listen.

Thank you for the support. I'm very sorry for your losses as well. It's very comforting to be able to share with others who have had similar experiences.

Moschic31 · September 2012

Very sorry for your loss. Luck to you.

caramia582 · September 2012

It is in our nature to feel like there is something we could have done differently to prevent. You did nothing wrong, it just happens. I know that doesn't provide a ton of comfort, and it doesn't make you pregnant again, but it is the truth. Let your DH be there for you and take care of you. I'm sorry for your loss.... I know how much it sucks.

km_md · September 2012

I am so sorry for your loss. Please know that you did nothing to cause this so don't blame yourself! My DH and I are thinking along the same lines as you and trying to stay positive. We know that we couldn't have prevented this, and it happened for a reason. Once we are mentally prepared, we are going to try again. This is not something that I would have said a week ago, so I know that my healing is progressing. T&P for you and your husband.

LunaBug924 · September 2012

I am so sorry for your loss. This was my first pregnancy as well so I understand the heartbreak. Its great that you have a supportive husband, and that you are trying to stay positive. Everyone will tell you that this is not your fault, that it happens all the time, and that in the long run it was for the best because this means there may have been something wrong with the baby. Even though all these things are 100% TRUE, it doesn't take all the hurt away. This board has been a great help to me, so I hope you find confort in it too.

SugarLove06 · September 2012

I think every woman who has a miscarriage blames herself a little at some point, but there is nothing you can do about it, unfortunately it wasn't meant to be. I blamed myself the first time because after I miscarried a water infection was detected, and I read up they can be the cause of miscarriages. I blamed myself for weeks until the doctor told me it was extremely unlikely it had anything to do with losing the baby!

I hope you feel better soon and I'm almost definite you will get pregnant and have a healthy baby, we all will Hopefully sooner than later. Xxx

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