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1 month of obsessing down

AlexisLAAlexisLA member
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After about 8 months of trying using OPK's and not spending a lot of time thinking about it or researching things, that time went by pretty quick and stressfree. Then I decided to kick things into high gear: bought a fertility monitor, conception cap, green tea, mucinex, 3 books, started temping, saw 2 acupuncturists none of whom I liked, ate fertility foods like yam and pineapple, made appts with RE and Urologist and found sites like this one, FF, and 2WW, learning the acronyms. Well, this month has been the longest ever and I feel for all of you going through ART. I see this is going to be a long and involved ride and am not excited about it. Tomorrow is my first appt. with the RE. At least I have one month of charting to show him.

Starting to have all of those thoughts like why did we wait so long? We just weren't ready to get married until we were ready, you know? Now maybe it's too late. I remember telling DH before we married last year that over 35 it gets a lot harder and I don't think he really believed me ., don't want to start playing the blame game here. Can't spiral down into panic mode since that won't help.
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  • jas717jas717

    I am sorry you are feeling so stressed, but hopefully you will get some answers at your RE appt.  And,on a positive note, your chart looks nice!  Easy to see where you ovulated.  Sounds like you are on the right track.  Good luck!

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  • ksgsmuksgsmu member

    I am in the same boat as you... married later than "normal" and trying to start a family after 35. It can be scary.  Don't have any advice other than don't dwell on the past and that I hope you have a great visit with your RE tomorrow and that you can get a plan in place that makes you feel better about this journey.

    Good luck!!!!

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  • tampabayRNtampabayRN member
    I am in the same boat as you.  My hubby and I also just recently got married.  I am 36 and DH 34.  We started TTC right away due to my age but so far no success.  I had my 1st appointment with the RE a couple weeks ago and no in the process of getting all testing done. I wish you the best of luck and I am hoping that both of us will get pregnant soon!
    Photobucket Me:36 DH: 34 TTC since 02/2012, not preventing since 2010. Me: testing came back good. DH: dx: MIF low count/motility. RE recommends IVF with ICSI. Update: DH just diagnosed with severe Crohn's disease, so any IF treatment is on hold :(
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  • AlexisLAAlexisLA member

    Thanks ladies! I guess that was more of a vent than anything else.

    The first RE appt was OK I guess. We talked to a junior doctor for an hour who told us all of the basic stuff I already know but I guess it was nice for my husband to hear all of it (how ovulation works, timing BD etc.) from a professional. I was annoyed because the real doc we made an appt with who is in high demand I guess and very busy only saw us for like 5 mins and then his next availability for a follow-up isn't until Oct 25 which is 2 cycles from now! I did my day 3 blood work today and have a hysterosonogram scheduled for next week, then after that my day 20 blood work. Hopefully the doc can call me with results and next steps so we won't have to wait until Oct 25 for that. Good news is that my husband got his SA back and all is good with him.

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  • HeathernStevenHeathernSteven member
    Good Luck! you can obsess here Stick out tongue I was 35 when we got married now we are 39 and 44, each getting a year older in January. Don't stress over the past, you were living yuor life doing your thing. THis will happen have faith no stress, stress is bad for concieving!

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    Me: 41 DH: 46. We are TTC our 1st, started July '11,
    3 cycles clomid with Ob,
    1 cycle Tamoxifen with Ob,
    Diagnosed PCOS 11/5/12
    clomid, trigger & timed bd 12/12 BFN
    1st clomid IUI 1/4/13 BFN.
    2nd clomid IUI 2/13 cancelled didn't respond to clomid.
    3/15/13 scheduled laparoscopy & on bcp.

    May 10 IUI from injectibles - BFN 

    May 22 done with interventions it will either happen or it won't. 

    February 2014 No longer actively trying, but not preventing. 

    SURPISE BFP 4/2/2015!!!!!!!!!!

    Miscarriage 4/23/15

     

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