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Im glad I found this.

kfarmer92kfarmer92
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I know most of you ladies are going thru divorce or breakup or something like that, and that sucks. My mom went thru it when my sister and I were 13 and 16. But I am 14 wks pregnant now and since day one, the baby's dad denied the baby and refused to come around. So I will never give him a chance to have anything to do with the baby. But this is my first, and i'm 20 yrs old and going to be raising an unplanned baby on my own. I'm so scared and no one really understands because they don't know what actually went on between me and the daddy. Any advice for a single ftm? /:
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  • tshorter11tshorter11
    I know what your going through. I'm 20 also and I've been a single parent for a year now. It hasn't been easy but seeing my son face everyday makes everything so much better. I think you should stay focused on your little one. Your child's father will come around eventually. You should offer him to take a dna test. Thats what i did with my son's father and he decided not to take it because he said it was a waste of money since he knew my son was his. You have to stay focused on you and your baby because if you don't it will only stress you out and make you depressed. Just stay positive and everything will work out in the end Trust me. Good luck on your situation and if you need to talk inbox me.
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  • kfarmer92kfarmer92
    Thank you. I'm glad someone is there:
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  • chefnicole22chefnicole22 member

    I was/am kind of in the same situation. I'm 23 and left my boyfriend when I was 11 weeks pregnant. DD is 2.5 weeks now and her dad has absolutely no part in her life and I hope it stays that way. Being pregnant and single was hard to deal with when I was around friends that were pregnant and happily married, but I knew that it was best if my ex wasn't around. Way less stressful...

    I know I've only had Charlie for 2.5 weeks now but I am happy with the decision I  made. She is the best thing that's ever happened to me, even if she did come out of kind of a bad situation. Oddly enough, I think it just makes her more special.


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  • keychain01keychain01

    imagekfarmer92:
    . So I will never give him a chance to have anything to do with the baby.  /:

    I know he denied your child and honestly I know what that feels like but I do feel like if a father does try to get to know his child (however late that might be) I wouldn't suggest refusing him. Unless of course its harmful to you or your little one. From what it sounds he was just stupid....stupid can be outgrown! Thats just my opinion.

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  • kfarmer92kfarmer92
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    imagekfarmer92:
    . So I will never give him a chance to have anything to do with the baby.  /:

    I know he denied your child and honestly I know what that feels like but I do feel like if a father does try to get to know his child (however late that might be) I wouldn't suggest refusing him. Unless of course its harmful to you or your little one. From what it sounds he was just stupid....stupid can be outgrown! Thats just my opinion.



    Well I called him yesterday and told him this is your last chance because I felt bad and he just started yelling at me to leave him alone and stop calling him cuz its not his fing problem. So I guess I got my answer on that...plus I talked to his ex wife a while back when I found out and she told me that when she got pregnant he started being really mean to her and hitting her which he confirmed so having him around is not a good idea.
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