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Habitual Night Wakings (XP)

charmediamsurecharmediamsure
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J is sleeping well at the beginning of the night.  I put him down at 8.  We have a routine and it works perfectly.  He nurses before sleep but I've been doing the No-Cry Sleep Solution so we have been breaking the sucking to sleep habit.  At this point I am able to get him off the boob and put down drowsy.

He will sleep 8pm-2am.  At 2am he seems to be hungry and will take a good feeding (which I'm happy to do since he's only in the 10th percentile for weight).  But, and here's where it gets fun, he goes to sleep and then wakes, every single night, at 3, 4, 5, 6.  Without fail.  I know he's not hungry because he just wants a quick comfort suck and he goes back to sleep.  Last night I tried everything at the 3am waking but finally gave in and gave him the boob. He fell asleep at 3:40 and STILL got up at 4.

Pulling him off the boob to put him down drowsy (as I have been doing successfully at all other points) doesn't work during these wakings.  He refuses a pacifier.  He freaks the heck out if I try soothing him by rocking, shushing, singing.

This started nearly 3 weeks ago and I'm about to lose it.  Tell me I'm not alone.  Tell me how you solved this.  I will not and cannot allow him to CIO.
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Re: Habitual Night Wakings (XP)

  • charmediamsurecharmediamsure

    imagemuffin87:
    What about having your DH get up with him so that the boob isn't available? He could rock back to sleep and work on putting him down drowsy. Your LO might be more willing to do that if you aren't there.

    I wish.  DH works nights so it's all me.

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  • nosoup4unosoup4u member
    What happens if you wait a bit before going in to him? More like "fuss it out" instead of CIO. It never worked w my kids, but may be worth a shot if night's all on you.

    The other idea would be to let him sleep with you after 3 AM. He might do better close to you, but not nursing.

    If it's any consolation, my 23monthold wakes at 1:30 AM every night, without fail. Sigh.
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  • alliecat1234alliecat1234
    My baby (4 months old) sleeps about a 4-5 hour stretch and then he comes in the bed with me for the rest of the night.  It's the only way we get sleep.  I think if you aren't willing to let him CIO (which I am not, either), then you might have to accept that he will want the boob every hour for that final stretch of the night.  If you have him in bed with you, you could try the strategies in NCSS book and see if you can comfort him without the boob while in bed with you.  I haven't been successful with it but I haven't really been trying, either.
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  • TiffanyBerryTiffanyBerry member

    Three weeks ago (by your ticker) puts it as possibly the four month wakeful period.  You might look it up and see if it resonates with you.

    You could try partial night weaning (he gets that 2am feed, but then nothing again until 5 or 6 or 7 or whatever you decide), but you have to not give in, despite the lack of sleep you both get, or it defeats the purpose. 

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  • MouseInLuxMouseInLux member
    DD's point of not going back to her bed is 4am. I know if she wakes up around then I'm not getting any sleep unless I bring her in with me. At the moment if I do that she'll sleep until around 7 with no wakings. I'd try bringing LO in with you but wearing a shirt so he can't nurse non stop.
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