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Feel good story from an adopted child (now adult)....Long post
To start this off I want to say I LOVE that there is a board for adoption on here!
Here is a brief history of me and my story...
My adoption was planned out before I was born. It was 1988 so open adoption was not really as popular as it is today. Becasue of this mine was closed. I have never known anything about my birth parents, not medical history or even first names, nothing. My adoptive parents (aka mom and dad) also had no information on my birth parents because in my case everything was handled between the lawyers.
I have always known that I was adopted. My parents were very open with me about it and willing to anwser any questions I had to the best of their ability. I have also NEVER had any negitive feelings towards my birth parents. I did know that when they had me they were very young and trying to graduate high school and go to college. I have lead a great and privliged life, one that I do not know if I would have been able to lead with teenage parents.
That being said I have always been happy with how my life has turned out but I do still feel like there is a piece of me missing. I feel that this hole could only be filled by being able to thank the woman that made the impossible decision to give me a better life.
I have always wanted to find my birth mother, but it seemed as though I was aginst impossiable odds, beings that I did not have even a first name and my adoption was privite so not though an agency. When I was 17 I got in contact with the lawyer that handled my mom's side of the adoption. It was then that I found out I had no legal rights to my birth parents names or anything. I was heart broken. Finding this out took me a long time to recover from, but I always knew that I would never give up hope.
Ok, now that we are all caught up! On to the fun!
On Christmas night 2010 I was bored at work (hotel front desk) and decided to do just another quick google search. I typed in the search box 'adoptions 1988' It was then I stumbled across a web site for birth parents looking for children that they placed for adoption. At the bottom of the page I found a little box that had my birth date, city, state, hospital, and gender. Needless to say I was beyond shocked! I did not know what to do, or how exactly to handle this. In the box it provided my birth mothers name as well as my fathers. I decided to put my Nancy Drew cap on and start digging. I found a picture of the man I believed was my birth father. Looking at that picture there was no doubt in my mind. I also found picutres of my birth mothers daughters (my sisters!) once again there was no doubt in my mind...or heart.
During the next few days my number one biggest concern was my mom. I wanted to make sure that she understood that no matter what happened teh 22 years of raising me and molding me into the person I am, was much stronger then any blood ties. The last thing I wanted to do was hurt her. On December 30th I finally got the courage to call and tell her. Thank God for giving me such a strong, loving, and compassionate person to be my mother! When I told her she was shocked but also thrilled! She told me she understood why I wanted to do this and helped me by giving me what little additional information she had. She could also tell that I was very nervous about making contact with my birth mother and offered to call her for me. Where as I did not take her up on this, it showed me how much she was willing to help me with my journey. What a joy and relief it was to know that she would be there to help me, no matter what the outcome was. She also told me that when I made contact she wanted to meet her also. So she could finally thank her for the decision she made.
On December 31st I finally made 'the call'. It went amazing. We talked for hours about everything...after all we had a life time to catch up on! About a month later I found my birth father. It went just as well! I am very proud to say that both of my birth parents went to college and graduated. They made sure to compleate their dreams. I talk to both of them on a regular basis, as does my mom! I got married last month and it was amazing to have them all in the same place at once. My wedding day was the first time my birth father and mother had seen each other since Feb. 14th 1988 the day they signed my adoption papers!
Well here is my feel good adoption story for the childs point of view! Please let me know if you have any quesitons.
God Bless!
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Re: Feel good story from an adopted child (now adult)....Long post
Thanks so much for sharing your story! I am thrilled that everything worked out so well for you and your families. I have tears in my eyes
Hug your mom; she sounds awesome.
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