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Should i support him?

tshorter11tshorter11
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my BD went to jail and I am wondering should i stick by his side through this. We were in plans of working on a relationship again. I have stuck by his side for two years when we were together and even after he hurt me. I've always been there for him but he hasn't always been there for me in return. We also might be expecting a LO again. Should i just talk to him for my DS sake and move on or should i stay by his side as i once did before? I'm wondering if anybody else has been through this situation also. ughhhh i'm so confused. 
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Re: Should i support him?

  • UberBizUberBiz member
    I never have, but I have a friend who stuck by her now husband through cheating, drugs, and jail time, most of that while she was pregnant with their child. They have been happily married for I believe 2 years now. If you are BOTH willing to work on your relationship, and he is willing to make the changes that will work for BOTH of you (not just him, and not just you making the changes or sacrifices), then I do believe it can work. But that's something you need to discuss with him, and also follow your own heart if you still truly love him.
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  • pinitbabypinitbaby member
    I think if you're even asking yourself this question then you have your worries about it. If he keeps hurting you then why stick around. It will hurt and anger you more if you do support him and then he gets out and cheats or whatever he's done in the past all over again. You will resent him and be angry at yourself because you didn't make the right choice. I always bailed my ex out of jail, I was his surety at one point until he put his hands on me and ended up doing a year in jail for my assault. You both have to be willing to work at everything or it just won't work. Just please don't ever settle just bc you're pregnant or feeling vulnerable to him. Try to get a good support system of your own and you may find your life starts to look up when he's not around :)
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  • preggersin2011preggersin2011 member
    I"m guessing he is in JAIL for a reason? something caused this end result and it didn't come about from good morals, values, or behavior (unless it was stealing food to survive).You, yourself just said the relationship is one sided.  I don't know this person from Adam, but going to jail would be an end all deal breaker for me.  IMO i would never talk to him again, and if he wants anything to do with your daughter he can go through the courts.
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    What is he in jail for? Will he be released soon, or going to prison? For how long? 

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  • tshorter11tshorter11
    Thank you for the advice. I've decided to move on with my life and just support him for my son.
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