Adoption

I'm adopted

Hi!

I was adopted as a baby, and I grew up knowing I was adopted. I didn't actually get to meet my biological mother again until I was 15, she said it was too painful to think about seeing me before then. We don't talk often, but we keep each other updated on how we're doing. She came to my graduation and to my wedding. She's not my mother, my mother is my mother, but I am thankful to her for giving me life and caring about me so much, and compromising her feelings to let my parents raise me. I met my biological father two years ago, but we haven't kept contact.

It's not a big deal to me, it's just how I have grown up. I don't know if this is helpful at all, but if you have any questions about my adoption experience please feel free to ask!

Edited to add 

Now that I'm trying to get pregnant, I am definitely thankful to have contact with my biological mother for medical and genetic reasons, and I am thankful that my biological father and paternal grandmother have given me their medical/genetic history on paper.

I wish you moms and dads out there adopting that things go well! 

 

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Re: I'm adopted

  • Thanks for posting.  Always great to hear from adults that have been adopted and what their experience was growing up with their AP's.  Just wondering, do you think if your mom did want to keep contact with you while you were growing up that you would have preferred that vs. just meeting her at 15?  Did your BM every have any other children after or before you?  Welcome to the board and best of luck with your TTC journey.
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  • imageIRR:
    Thanks for posting.  Always great to hear from adults that have been adopted and what their experience was growing up with their AP's.  Just wondering, do you think if your mom did want to keep contact with you while you were growing up that you would have preferred that vs. just meeting her at 15?  Did your BM every have any other children after or before you?  Welcome to the board and best of luck with your TTC journey.

    Hi! 

    I guess I should have clarified that a little bit! She did send me some letters before we actually met, but they were few and far between. We talked on the phone on my birthdays from the time I was 12 until I was 15, but she felt she couldn't handle meeting me again in person until then. She did have two other children several years after I was born.

     

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  • It is great to hear from an adoptee once you are grown up. Best of luck in your TTC journey.
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  • Welcome! I'm an adult adoptee too, and now DH and I are adopting.
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  • It sounds to me like the parents who raised you are really wonderful people and raised a very smart woman. It also sounds like your birth mom really loves you and knew the best thing for you at that time. I hope your TTC journey is short and sweet. Thanks for sharing.
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  • Welcome. We love having people from all sides of adoption here on the board. Post often!
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    Welcome! I'm an adult adoptee too, and now DH and I are adopting.

    this.......Welcome and good luck to you and DH! 

     

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  • Welcome to the board!!  It's great to see so many different people with different adoption experiences.  Good luck in your TTC journey, I hope it is short and sweet Smile


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