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rissa06rissa06 member
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Hi all, I'm new to this board and didn't want to just post. My husband and I have two kids 4 and 2 and hve been on the bump on and off for a few yrs. I used to post toddlet boards when my dd was that age, but stopped after we had my son.

I need so advice...I am having an issue with y daughter.  She doesn't listen to me at all and even when I put her in time out or take a toy away she goes back doing the same thing.  I feel like lately all I do is yell and it isn't fun.  Some of the stuff is distructive and not safe when she is with my son.  We have similar rules as a school and she doesn't do this stuff there.  I just don't know what to do?  

Any advice??? 

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  • ldcoffelldcoffel member

    Hi, welcome.

    My teacher viewpoint is, kids always seem to follow rules at school than at home. It's easier to push the limits at home, and school is more of a group mentality.

    Can you do it without yelling? Like DD could be standing on on a stool that is wiggly. I might say, "that's not safe, you may not stand on the stool". If she does it again,  say the same. The third time I would remove her from the situation. Immediately take her down and put her somewhere safe. Maybe make her stay right with you, because she can't play safely. She may get tired of sitting with you, or sitting in the floor of the kitchen while you cook... Whatever you might be doing.

     

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    imageldcoffel:

    Hi, welcome.

    My teacher viewpoint is, kids always seem to follow rules at school than at home. It's easier to push the limits at home, and school is more of a group mentality.

    Can you do it without yelling? Like DD could be standing on on a stool that is wiggly. I might say, "that's not safe, you may not stand on the stool". If she does it again,  say the same. The third time I would remove her from the situation. Immediately take her down and put her somewhere safe. Maybe make her stay right with you, because she can't play safely. She may get tired of sitting with you, or sitting in the floor of the kitchen while you cook... Whatever you might be doing.

     

    I should probably prefer face that yelling comes after the four or fifth time I've said something.  And usually when I remove her, she goes bak to the same spot or throws something or oes limp, which makes it hard on my back. 

     Additionally, a lot of times it is mainly around ds, like for instance her and I did something just the two of us on Thursday with out ds and she was perfect.    

    I am willing to try anything, so I will try that and see if it works ?

     

    Thanks so much for the advice! 

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  • ldcoffelldcoffel member

    Why is it around your DS? Is she jealous? Is he messing up what she's doing? Is she wanting him to play and he won't? Does she want to be alone?

    I know it's difficult when they do something to put the other child in jeopardy! I catch DD kicking DS all the time because he's trying to play with what she has. 

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