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How did staying in the hospital alone over night work out for you?
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Looking at a RCS in 6 weeks and will need to stay overnight by myself so DH can go home at night to be with DD. it was helpful to me with DD to have DH there to help out since getting out of bed was difficult and DD was in our room the whole time. If you did nights alone in the hospital after your CS how did it work out for you?
I'll have to check hospital policy on allowing DS to stay with me if I am by myself. I'm planning to breastfeed and am worried the nursery staff won't bring him at night as frequently as he will need to nurse. Anyone have experience with this issue?
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Re: How did staying in the hospital alone over night work out for you?
I can't answer your first question but I would assume the nurses will help you with whatever you need overnight (help out of bed, etc.)
We sent DS to the nursery at night and the nurses did bring him on time for feedings. I would call them right after I fed him and tell the nurses how long we nursed. They would jot it in his chart and they would come in for his next feeding, wake him for me before coming in, give him to me and I'd feed him and then I'd call for them to take him back to the nursery.
FANTASTIC!!! Wouldn't have it any other way. The first night was rough because I was "tied" to the bed with the IV, catheter and leg compression thingies, but after that I was fine. Up, walking around, etc.
I ALWAYS send my kids to the nursery at night. I EBF and have had NO issues with the staff not bringing my babies to me to nurse. If you think it'll be an issue, you can have your ped put a note on your chart that you are EBF and no formula to be given.
DH has to stay with the kids. They have a routine, a schedule, activities, etc. and we do NOT have the luxury of family help (neither my MIL nor my parents drive here)............
I'm looking forward to my stay. I'm in a private suite, I get a massage, and all I have to do is BF a baby and change some diapers. Easy peasy.............
GL!
I only had to spend one night without DH but it wasn't that bad. If I needed anything at all regarding help with the baby, I called the nurses. I also sent the baby to the nursery not just that night, but every night as well. It really helped. As far as getting up and out of bed, I really didn't need the nurses for that--I think it was my third night in the hospital that I was alone so I had a pretty good system for doing it myself. But the nurses were in and out of the room several times during the night to give me meds every night etc. If I ever needed anything though, they were always there.
As far as BF'ing, I can't help you with that. I BF'ed in the hospital but at night in the nursery, I just had the nurses give her formula.
I just got out of the hospital today and had to stay alone so DH could be with our other DD's. The first night was terrible because the pain meds ordered were not working well, I hadn't slept in 2 days and they wouldn't give me a sleeping pill, I had restless leg, and depression kicked in. I was literally going nuts.
DD was in the nursery and we don't BF so she stayed until about 5am. The nurses came in to get my cath out and got me up to walk.
Second night was a little better with stronger pain meds. I ended up getting a few hours of sleep before DD was brought in.
GL
I wasn't alone every night. I know DH was with me the first night, but I had quite a few alone. (We had a long stay.)
My hospital didn't have a nursery, so DS stayed with me.
On the nights I was alone, I raised my bed until it was about the height of DS's bassinet and I rolled DS's bassinet right next to my bed. I was able to get him out of the bassinet without getting out of bed.
The nurses were extremely helpful. Hopefully you'll get a good nurse for overnight - explain the situation, voice your concerns to her/him, and hopefully they will be ready to help you with whatever you need.
Why will you be sending your baby to the nursery? I had dh stay one night, but it was pointless. He really couldn't do much. Sure, he helped me up to pee and such, but a nursing assitant or nurse could do the same for you
My son was in a co sleeper type crib (I gave birth in Germany, they have these awesome cribs that are flush with your bed) so I had him right there. I didnt get much sleep, but I wouldn't have had home, either. I liked having him right there, so he could breastfeed often and we could get lots of skin to skin time.
DS born via unplanned C-section at 40w6d
I stayed overnight myself, and I prefer it that way. Less distracting, so that I can try to sleep when nurses aren't bugging me. If DH had been there, I'd hear him tossing and turning and I'd never rest. The nurses handed me the baby, pillows, water, whatever I needed for BFing - that's their job. They brought the baby in every two hours for feeding, even though I wasn't allowed to keep her overnight for the first 24 hours. I prefer that, too. I got better rest when baby was in the nursery.
The baby will have their own nurse, so you don't have to rely on your nurse to be available every two hours to brring the baby for feeding or pick him/her up afterwards. Although your nurse and tech will be bugging you quite a bit to check your vitals. There really is no peace the first couple of nights in the hospital, but if everyone does their job right, you will have plenty of help without your DH there. You may even find them more helpful than your DH!
By the time you're on your third kid, staying alone in the hospital after a c/s feels like a vacation! lol
I'm only answering for myself.
Because I can. I've sent all 3 kids to the nursery each night (11pm-around 6am) and will do the same with #4. I have not bonded any less with my kids, nor was I unsuccessful at BFing because I don't have the "attached to my baby all day" attitude and feel like I need to have them room in with me.
Once I'm home, it's a different story. There are no nurses so that I can get a break and take a nap. I have no help at home other than DH (and that's just for 1 week). At that point, yes, the baby is basically attached to me, but the few days in the nursery have not made an impact.
It's a personal choice. If you want your baby to room-in, that's fantastic.
But, I hear so often on these boards that it's not a "good" thing to do to send them to the nursery and you NEED to keep them with you at all times.......... for successful BFing, for the bonding (skin to skin contact, etc.).
bfp#4 3/19/2014 edd 12/1/2014 please let this be the one!
beta @ 5w0d = 12,026! u/s 4/22/14 @ 8w1d it's twins!
If, upon checking with the hospital regarding their policy for allowing infants to room in with a mother staying alone after having a c-section, I find out that DS must be sent to the nursery if I am alone and have not been able to get out of bed unassisted yet (the first 12-24 hours usually).
I delivered DS 2 days before Christmas (at a Catholic Hospital) with a "smaller" staff, but didn't experience what you did. I'm sorry that your experience was stinky.
I hope it's not the same this time!
DD2 was a Thanksgiving baby, and my care was just as good as when I had DD1 and DD3. Honestly I would not want to return tothat hospital if I were you. Seriously. I'd switch to a better hospital, and look into filing an official complaint if you went 12 hours without a nurse. That is not normal. Sorry you had that experience.
I was alone all 3 nights in the hospital without any issues. You get good at perfecting the roll, lift, roll back method of moving
It took a little bit to figure out how to move with the discomfort of the incision, but to me it wasn't a big deal after I figured it out.
I sent DS to the nursery for about 3 hours one night. Our hospital prefers the baby room with the mother, but I got tired and cranky and quite frankly pretty b!tchy because DS was just screaming and I couldn't get him to stop. Feeding, walking, shushing... nothing was helping and I was alone. The nurses were slow to respond to the call button, and I couldn't take it anymore. Later we found out he wasn't effectively breastfeeding and he was starving. Once the kid had some formula, we were peachy again (I have struggled with a low supply and he has had latch/suction/vacuum issues from day 1).
We had DS go to the nursery at night, but the nurses all knew that he was EBF and that if he was hungry or wouldn't calm down, they would bring him to me. It wasn't a problem at all. In fact, it was pretty nice, because they'd change his diaper, then bring him to me and hand him to me in bed. When I was done nursing, I'd page them, and they'd come and take him back. Just make sure you let each nurse know what you want them to do and that DS is not to be given formula.
DH stayed with me every night (DS is our first child, so DH didn't need to go home), but he can sleep through anything, so he didn't wake up when DS was brought in or started to cry.