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Interesting feelings...

Foster1MomFoster1Mom
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I always thought that every little one that comes to us I would want to keep. Don't get me wrong I would keep this little guy in a heartbeat but his mom is so young I pray she gets it together for his sake. If I posted this I am sorry, it's been on my mind but I am a little sleep deprived to remember if I posted it. 

 

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  • silliestbunnysilliestbunny member

    You may have a little self-preservation going on too... I think it's healthy to keep perspective and to be prayerful.

    Hang in there and catch sleep when you can :) 

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  • jillianmbjillianmb member
    imagesilliestbunny:

    You may have a little self-preservation going on too... I think it's healthy to keep perspective and to be prayerful.

    Hang in there and catch sleep when you can :) 

    What she said.  You want the best for him and think that is an amazing thing to want.  

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    Home November 24 2012!

    Back to RE Summer 2013. TTC journey continues: 

    Dx DOR, endometriosis, low sperm count 
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  • Foster1MomFoster1Mom

    Never thought about self preservation. That is possible.

     

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  • DaisyZHDaisyZH member
    I think it's lovely that you care so much about both of them.  Thoughts and prayers for all three of you Smile


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  • elissaann26elissaann26 member

    We thought the same thing too!  We always assumed that we would fall in love and want to keep them forever.

    So far that is not the case.  These boys are amazing, but they are not ours.  It is weird to know that their forever home isn't here.  It may be with their birth family or it may be somewhere else.  It does make me feel guilty sometimes.  Why don't I love these boys more when they are well-behaved, cute, cuddly, super smart, on and on?  But the truth is that I just don't have that connection- and either does DH which is good that we are on the same page.

    Now this doesn't mean that we don't care for them.  We definitely do!  And we will be continuing to fight for what is best for them.

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  • Foster1MomFoster1Mom
    imageelissaann26:

    We thought the same thing too!  We always assumed that we would fall in love and want to keep them forever.

    So far that is not the case.  These boys are amazing, but they are not ours.  It is weird to know that their forever home isn't here.  It may be with their birth family or it may be somewhere else.  It does make me feel guilty sometimes.  Why don't I love these boys more when they are well-behaved, cute, cuddly, super smart, on and on?  But the truth is that I just don't have that connection- and either does DH which is good that we are on the same page.

    Now this doesn't mean that we don't care for them.  We definitely do!  And we will be continuing to fight for what is best for them.

    Exactly.

    I really want what is best for little J and part of me feels bad for his parents. That is a shock to be feeling that as well.

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