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honkytonk_kid
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Postitive Discipliners- a positive time out ?
honkytonk_kid
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At what age do you think this would start being beneficial?
P has a little mat on the floor in his room that he sometimes naps on or reads books on. I was cleaning and rearranging in there yesterday, and thought I could stick it behind the rocker and put some pillows and blankets there for a cozy little positive time out spot.
Is 20 months too young to benefit from a positive TO? I know he won't really "get" it yet, but I was thinking we could go sit there and calm down when he gets crazy, to get him used to the spot and associate it with calming down and feeling better.
Or maybe it wil become more ammo for pillow fights 
Any ideas or suggestions?
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Re: Postitive Discipliners- a positive time out ?
We started pretty early. I can't remember exactly when, but somewhere around 14-18 months. I went with him & we'd read together or just cuddle up & take deep breaths. I wasn't planning on starting that early, but figured it was a good way to calm down from temper tantrums & the general emotional overloads that he had started going through at that time.
He's able to calm himself pretty well now, & I think positive time outs + teaching calming skills was key. He's very sensitive, so those tools are very important for him.
Heck, put me in time out in his room! I'm 41, and 41 minutes to read books with a pillow and a blanket sounds great!
I want to be positive in my discipline, but I think there has to be a deterrant factor to discipline, too. Getting to go to this cozy spot wouldn't deter much inappropriate behavior, in my opinion. But, there is a difference between needing a quiet place to calm down and needing to be disciplined for a more serious offense.
Right? I was like, "hmm, this is kinda nice..." And actually, the Postive Discipline book recommends that parents go there too when they feel out of control, to model calming down and to emphasize that it's not a bad thing.
But that seems to be the point of the Positive Discipline books- that kids are able to do better when they feel better. It's not a punitive time out, it's a "when you're ready to act in a manner appropriate to this family/society (however long that takes) feel free to come back."