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Another feel good adoption post.
My DH and I have two couple friends who are also adopting internationally and we met tonight. One couple is adopting for the second time and they bring their 4 year old with them to our meetings; the mom was saying how she was struggling with feeling bad that she doesn't love the child she is "expecting" (through adoption) as much as her son at home yet and she has been upset about those feelings lately. However, she talked to some other moms of two and they all said that they did not feel the same strength of love for #2 until they held the baby/child in their arms.
This got us started on a discussion of how the adoption process and the "fight" it takes- the endurance, the struggles, the never giving up- puts such a fierce love for your child in your heart. I obviously can't compare it to having a biological child, but I think there is something very special about the adoption journey that creates a unique love for a child who is adopted.
As much as I know I miss out on the pregnancy experience, there is something so special about the adoption journey. It is soul forming, character building, and it builds a bond with your child that could never be replicated. Just loving the adoption journey tonight, for all it's hardship. Worth every second. :-)
TTC September 2010 thru October 2011
SA February 2011: Normal
RE App. October 2011 - Recc. Clomid and IUI
Taking a break from TTC to pursue adoption
Met our 2 year old son in Russia July 2012!
Court trip October 2012
Home November 24 2012!
Back to RE Summer 2013. TTC journey continues:
Dx DOR, endometriosis, low sperm count
Clomid + IUI#1, #2 = BFN / IUI #3 = ???
Laparoscopy scheduled December 2013
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Re: Another feel good adoption post.
Amen!
It's a journey all it's own that has it's own ups and downs. Different from pregnancy... some might argue easier... some might argue harder... I say it changes people in a way that is unimaginable.
My adoption journey changed how I see people in other situations. It's made me less judgmental and more loving and accepting of walks of life that I can't understand. (I never thought I'd defend and try to explain the evils of addiction to people judging addicts... yet I have.) I am blessed to be a mom and blessed to be so changed by adoption.
A beautiful post!
My good friend was adopted and whenever I'm feeling discouraged or sad she tells me a lot of what you wrote jillianmb! She helps give me the strength to keep going knowing the incredible bond she has with her parents and family.
Being pregnant/ having a bio child is lovely, but it takes exceptional strength, love and faith to have chosen the path and journey of adoption.