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Toddlers: 24 Months+
groovygrl
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anyone's LO sleep on your floor regularly?
groovygrl
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Long, sorry.... DS (3 yo) has been struggling a lot lately with fears at bedtime/nighttime and in general with other stuff... so he has been coming down to our room & sleeping on the floor almost every night for the last week or so. He doesnt tend to mind sleeping on the floor w/ a pillow but we are torn about whether we should put his crib mattress down for him or a sleeping bag in there all the time, to make it better for him, or are we creating yet another terrible sleep issue we'll have to contend with... we have struggled for 3 yrs w/ sleep with both our kids so we tend to really get worried about sleep patterns, though I feel so sad w/ how he has been struggling lately, I think maybe he just needs this security.
The problem is that I don't want to put him down in our room, I still want him to 'go to bed' in his own room but several nights we have not even heard him come in & have woken up in the morning to him being there... we are fearful that he will be walking around the house at night & we won't know it, and we actually had his bedroom door locked at night for some time since he went in a bed for that reason, he just wouldn't stay in there (though previously it was coming out & playing in the hallway over & over, just sitting in the hall, etc & we were nervous he'd venture downstairs in the middle of the night). Now that the door is open, he has free reign & comes out almost every night. (another complication is that if his sister catches wind that he is going to sleep in our room, she will be all over it & begging to do it also, when she doesnt really need to.)
I'm so torn. I do not want to traumatize him...
So tonight he was crying in his room and when MH went to see what was going on, he ran out & made a beeline for our room. He laid down on the floor but then said he didn't want to sleep on the floor & wanted to sleep in our bed (we all sleep horribly when our kids are in our bed, it makes us miserable & we really don't want to go there, so pls don't suggest that.). we offered to bring his crib mattress in & he said yes. So we did that & he laid right down but then MH asked if maybe he wanted to sleep in his sister's room (she was already asleep)...and he said yes but could he bring the mattress...we decided to give it a try though I really have my doubts about how that will work out esp them going to sleep in the same room (we have tried it multiple times before & they just go crazy playing, running around, etc and will not quiet down).
Sigh. I just feel so badly for him but I am not sure what the best approach is. I would love to see the room sharing work out but dont have high hopes for that.
Thanks & sorry so long...
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Re: anyone's LO sleep on your floor regularly?
We're actually going through the same thing with our 3yo lately, which is frustrating because she was always such an awesome sleeper. But boy, that's really changed the last month or so. She comes in our room multiple times a night, says she's scared, takes a long time to go back to sleep. Many times I'll get up to check on her and find her in the floor (sometimes in our room, sometimes in her room next to her door, sometimes randomly in a hallway). We also sometimes wonder if she's awake more throughout the night than we realize, which worries us because the last thing we want is for her to be silently wandering around the house in the middle of the night. I've always been worried about starting bad sleep habits. My parents allowed me to sleep with them every night, and I did so all the way up until 1st grade! Not a habit I want to start.
However, tonight we gave in and put an air mattress in the floor of our bedroom. We told her if she wakes up during the night and is scared, then she could lay on the air mattress and go to sleep in our room. We told her she must start out in her bed, but if she wakes up during the night she can sleep on that mattress in the floor. I told her she doesn't even need to let us know she's there, just bring her pillow and her blankeys and lay down. I'm sure it's not the best thing, but sometimes you do what you gotta do. I'm hoping it will lead to more sleep for all of us, but we'll see.
Thanks... glad I'm not alone here!
Sleeping in his sister's room not surprisingly did not happen...about 30 min later down the stairs he came as we were sitting in the family room. We gave in & tried to get him to go to sleep on the mattress in our room but he was so squirmy (overtired, he has been staying up til 10 most nights even if just in his room reading books and that is not helping since he gets up around 630 on average) , finally MH laid on his bed w/ him and they both went to sleep. But he was up at 6 in our room again, we got him to sleep a little longer b/c we are trying to end the overtired thing... we talked to the kids about sharing a room this morning and he said he didn't want to, she said she did but she wants a 'big' bed like his (he has always had a full sized bed in his room b/c it was our 2nd guest room before they came along) but our vision was he'd sleep in his big bed & she'd sleep in the toddler bed in there w/ him so she'd have her bedding, etc. I just don't see any of it happening.
This too shall pass right? And be replaced by some new issue.
We've been doing something similar for the past few weeks because of so many changes in his life. We had gotten to the point where we could just put him in his bed, leave the room and close the door behind us. We are back to one of us sitting in his room until he falls asleep. Bed time has also taken 2 hours sometimes as of late. We're just running with it for right now, since, like I previously mentioned he has SO much going on. Once school starts on Monday and we fall into our new routine then we will start putting him back in his room.
We did put a crib mattress on the floor by our bed so he can sleep comfortably. Most mornings he wakes up super happy too. The big issue that has yet to resolve itself is when he comes into our room he is ready to party, only wants my husband and takes about an hour to full settle down. I'm hoping that too will pass and SOON.
Obviously others are going through it too, but it feels SO good to see someone else going through it. Makes my need for caffeine and toothpicks for my eyes less painful.