Is anyone planning to have just one?

happy_un-bride · September 2012

DH and I are only having one.

Just curious.

I'm trying to spend accordingly since I know these things will only be used once.

TimingisEverything · September 2012

yep. that didn't work out to well.

happy_un-bride · September 2012

TimingisEverything:
yep. that didn't work out to well.

LOL - Hope I have better luck!

wittyschaffy · September 2012

While I'd like to have at least 2 kids, I also want to be sure we can financially support all of our kids in a comfortable fashion and if that means we can afford one, then that is what we'll stick with. It would ultimately be my preference for my child to have a sibling to grow up with and rely on down the road when DH and I are no longer living but we'll see!

caladpi02 · September 2012

I am leaning towards one.

MrsHark122 · September 2012

Our plan is only one too.

Licia&Wayne · September 2012

I think we might be 1 and done. We've talked about having 2, but I'll be honest, I'm having such a rough go of it, that I don't know that I want to do this twice.

Meredith78 · September 2012

We are only having one! DH will be 45 and that is all that we both want. However, you bring up a good point...I guess I hadn't thought about the value of all of the baby gear only being used one time. Apparently, that had not factored into what we are looking/spending at but it PROBABLY should. :-)

Country Girl in the City · September 2012

It took me 12 years and $60,000 to get pregnant with this one. Unless the next one comes fast and free, I am done.

jahjbmr · September 2012

Ive always wanted 4, but I definitely Want at least 2

Beth64 · September 2012

We are considering only having 1. Time will tell but I know I definitely don't want more than 2.

Sparkles01 · September 2012

I'm one of two and always assumed I would have 2 as well. Now I am leaning towards just the one...

I figure I'll see how I feel in a couple of years. I don't have to make my mind up now, haha. It is annoying when I mention just having one how judgey people get. Not your place to have an opinion, sorry!

mrskitton · September 2012

Yes...only one. But we had to go through fertility treatments and I just can't fathom putting myself through all that again.

luvsdogs2 · September 2012

We are one and done.

Even though we won't be needing to get a nursery set that lasts for numerous babies, we are getting a convertible crib and trying to go with good, solid stuff, so hopefully LO's room will be good until they go off to college!

As far as the big safety items, like the crib and the car seat, we will be buying new. For most other things, whatever we don't get from the shower, we will definitely be looking to Craig's List!

MamaHook · September 2012

We thought we wanted one and then decided to try for one more. Now I'm pregnsnt with twins, LOL!

rosesarepink · September 2012

I am an only child and trust me, life is lonely growing up (not that I knew any better). Having been a product of one, I want at least 2 kids. It makes it so much easier to have someone on your side for once. I'm also a little spoiled and I would really like my kids to understand the meaning of sharing. Plus, I want to them to have each other to count on when they are older. My family is my parents and once they are gone, I will have no one left.

That thought makes me very, very sad. I know I have my husband and his family but it's just not your blood. Just a point of view from an only child.

Heartstrings13 · September 2012

The plan for us is 2, maybe 3. However, I have a friend who only has one and couldn't be happier. She gets a lot of flack for it, but it was the best decision for her family and I admire her for knowing what works for them and not letting 'societal pressures' change it. Not saying that anyone has more than one simply because society assumes we should, just reflecting on the experience that she's had. Smile

happy_un-bride · September 2012

luvsdogs2:

We are one and done.

Even though we won't be needing to get a nursery set that lasts for numerous babies, we are getting a convertible crib and trying to go with good, solid stuff, so hopefully LO's room will be good until they go off to college!

As far as the big safety items, like the crib and the car seat, we will be buying new. For most other things, whatever we don't get from the shower, we will definitely be looking to Craig's List!

We are thinking the same for the "saftey" items and a few other key pieces. Except not getting a convertible crib; just don't like them, going Ikea for crib and will see where we go from there for their bed later on.

I was really hoping to get some hand-me-downs from my older sister, but timing didn't work out as my sister decided she wanted a third and is also pregnant right now.

KristyVit · September 2012

We were thinking about only having one. Just mainly because I don't want to go on 2 maternity leaves (and pay for 2 possible university educations. That stuff is expensive!) But it seems I hear alot of stories about how lonely being an only child is I might consider another one in a few years. I have a sister a year older then me who is my best friend so it is nice to have someone to hang with on family vacation and look forward to seeing on holidays, etc.

TimingisEverything · September 2012

happy_un-bride:

TimingisEverything:
yep. that didn't work out to well.

LOL - Hope I have better luck!

I was just joking Wink

MrsG071809 · September 2012

rosesarepink:
I am an only child and trust me, life is lonely growing up (not that I knew any better). Having been a product of one, I want at least 2 kids. It makes it so much easier to have someone on your side for once. I'm also a little spoiled and I would really like my kids to understand the meaning of sharing. Plus, I want to them to have each other to count on when they are older. My family is my parents and once they are gone, I will have no one left. That thought makes me very, very sad. I know I have my husband and his family but it's just not your blood. Just a point of view from an only child.

I'm also an only child, but I never felt lonely growing up. Actually, to me, having just one sounds great. DH would like 2, but I told him we will get through this one and then we can talk. But I did want to give another perspective coming from an only child... I really did not feel lonely growing up, and I do not feel like I was spoiled. It was nice that my parents could help me more than some of my friends that had siblings, but I wasn't just handed everything by any means. I am very close to my parents, as well as my cousins and my best friend's family who I've grown up with and considered my own. So when my parents are gone, I don't feel like I'll be all alone. I'm also adopted, so maybe that's part of it, because I don't know anyone that's actually my blood, or I won't until baby comes. But I certainly don't consider being an only child a bad thing! I know some do, and wish they had siblings, but I am one that was and still is perfectly happy to be an only.

cjl5072 · September 2012

DH and I both always agreed that we wanted at least 2 kids, probably 3, and maybe 4. But this LO will be our first, so we'll see how it goes!

I have a cousin who is an only child and she is the kindest, most caring and un-spolied person I've ever met. But I do know she's told me before that she wishes she had a sister or brother... That being said, she's really close with her cousins so I think she views her cousins kind of like siblings.

I think every couple just has to figure out what works best for them!

kfarmer92 · September 2012

this is my first and i'll probably have one more later in life. this one was a suprise, but now that i have it, i wouldnt change anything. the daddy ran off so if in the future i find someone to love me and my child, i may get married and have one more but after that i'll be done. i just know how nice it was to have a little sister to play with and now she's my best friend and would hate to take that away from my kid!

Shoshie · September 2012

Yes. We had to do IUI for this one. So we are only planning to do this once (I'm 34, DH is 37).

candyreesecup · September 2012

I would like to have at least 2, but time is a running out and we might have to go through a fertility treatment again....:(

I always pictured multiple kids running around my house. I am so blessed to have one, but if I can be a little more greedy, I would like more...

JenBee74 · September 2012

One and done. We have a very active life style and like to travel... a lot. We have seen friends with similar lifestyles do just fine with one, totally mobile, still able to do most everything but adding number two was a game changer. We want to be able to show our child the world literally and for us that means one.

mhickey426 · September 2012

I am an only child and always wanted to brother or sister. I have tons of cousins with 2 who grew up right around the corner from me but it was never the same. My mom had 3 or 4 miscarriages before me and always said she felt bad for not being able to give me a bro/sis. The plus side was that my parents were able to give me the best. We went on vacations, they helped pay for college/grad school, my wedding ect. I had to earn it by doing well in school and stuff but I never wanted for anything.

With all of that being said, I definitly want to have 2 kids and maybe a 3rd if we can afford it. I really don't want to be as sick as I was again but I am definitly willing to go through it again for another child.

gundy21 · September 2012

One and done here - I will be 40 shortly after the baby arrives. We were lucky and were able to do this on our own - but it took 11 months of trying.

Mindish · September 2012

Licia&Wayne:
I think we might be 1 and done. We've talked about having 2, but I'll be honest, I'm having such a rough go of it, that I don't know that I want to do this twice.

This! I know I want more than one, but I'm considering adopting the rest.

Beaglechon2012 · September 2012

Seriously considering it.

mingli · September 2012

rosesarepink:
I am an only child and trust me, life is lonely growing up (not that I knew any better). Having been a product of one, I want at least 2 kids. It makes it so much easier to have someone on your side for once. I'm also a little spoiled and I would really like my kids to understand the meaning of sharing. Plus, I want to them to have each other to count on when they are older. My family is my parents and once they are gone, I will have no one left. That thought makes me very, very sad. I know I have my husband and his family but it's just not your blood. Just a point of view from an only child.

This! Hubby wants 1 but we'll see if we can afford it. I really want to have 2 kids so h/she will not be that lonely when were gone. It's always good to have your own family.

kellyrn9956 · September 2012

It took 3 1/2 years for this one. I think we'll go for #2, but not do any fertility treatments to make it happen. But I don't want to keep TTC after 35, and I am 31 now and will be 32 when the baby is born, so we would need to get pregnant relatively quickly after this baby. I won't be going on any birth control to prevent after this pregnancy, so we'll see where it goes. Once I turn 35, I will have a Mirena placed. At least, that's the plan for now.

Orange and Green · September 2012

My kids will be 17 and 15 when this LO is born. We don't plan to have any more after this, so LO will pretty much grow up an only child.

epona3 · September 2012

DH is an only child, and I have a much younger sibling, so I spent the first 10 years of my life as an only child. DH and I considered being "one and done," because neither of us felt like we particularly missed out growing up by not having siblings around. Both of us are friendly, social people who have no trouble sharing

However, as both our families get older, we are seeing how hard it can be. DH's parents are elderly (70+), and since there are no siblings or other family members around, it always falls on us to care for them. It's very hard to split the holidays when you know they will be alone if you don't visit YKWIM?

I also don't have any cousins, and my sister isn't real keen on settling down and having kids any time soon (though she is only 24, so maybe that will change...) So I worry that DD will grow up and literally have no family. That was part of our consideration of having a second child. I don't expect that they'll be BFFs (though it would be nice!) but at least they won't be totally alone in the world!

jengreenberg01 · September 2012

Yes, I am ( I think).

No matter what we are having one and then HE is getting snipped....If we end up wanting a 2nd child down the road, we will adopt

I am from a family of 3 siblings, but for some reason I always saw myself having an only child...

AKWinterBride · September 2012

Having multiple children does not ensure that your kids will be close or have any kind of relationship with eachother once they are adults - so don't have kids so that your child will have a companion.

I personally am totally fine with one kid. My husband on the other hand wants a boy, no matter how many kids it takes. Unfortunately for him, I am the one who has to do all the hard work so if he is lucky he will get 2, but we'll just see how #1 goes first!

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