UOs

namara5532 · September 2012

My UO is that I hate when people don't make an effort to correct their child's bad behavior. I can certainly understand learning disabilities, and I can appreciate that certain events have an impact on a child. But to not even try to correct the behavior is just lazy parenting. On our trip, DH's cousin brought his daughter who's 6 or 7 (although she looks like 8 or 9) to the family dinner. This girl would scream at random intervals, and everyone except her father was correcting her. He also let her roll around on the floor under the table without telling her to get up, and she ignored him when he told her to not play cell phone games. I was relieved when she left because DS had just gone down for his nap after fighting it for an hour. I found out later that her parents are going through a divorce, but I don't think that's an excuse to let your child do whatever they want without consequences.

bigbear · September 2012

namara5532:
My UO is that I hate when people don't make an effort to correct their child's bad behavior. I can certainly understand learning disabilities, and I can appreciate that certain events have an impact on a child. But to not even try to correct the behavior is just lazy parenting. On our trip, DH's cousin brought his daughter who's 6 or 7 (although she looks like 8 or 9) to the family dinner. This girl would scream at random intervals, and everyone except her father was correcting her. He also let her roll around on the floor under the table without telling her to get up, and she ignored him when he told her to not play cell phone games. I was relieved when she left because DS had just gone down for his nap after fighting it for an hour. I found out later that her parents are going through a divorce, but I don't think that's an excuse to let your child do whatever they want without consequences.

I totally agree and there is never an excuse good enough to let your kids do whatever they want. No matter what you are going through, your child is still #1 and you need to be focused and teach them right from wrong. We had a similar situation last Saturday when we had a family/friends get together at our house. There were 3 boys there, 10,6 and 3. OMG! Yes, I get it boys are "wild" but every time I'd say don't go in the bedroom or don't do this, or leave DDs toys with her they'd do the EXACT opposite and NOBODY would tell them otherwise. I wanted to scream. I feel disrespected by the parents for not keeping their kids in check when I'm clearly saying they are not supposed to do something and they repeatedly do it while the parents ignore it completely. UGH!

My UO: I see so many baby girls with painted toenails (yes babies DD's age) and I think it's terrible. I also keep thinking of the fumes from the nail polish that are just not good for the baby.

bigbear · September 2012

LibraryChica:

I'm too lazy to paint my own toenails. DD is on her own.

My UO: Only children are not all spoiled, they are not all lonely, they are not all socially maladjusted. There is no science to back up the theory that they are and if one more person asks me when I'm having a second and reacts with shock when I say I don't know if I am -- as if I were abusing the poor kid -- I'm going to scream. Don't tell me about how you once knew this only child once and they were lonely/spoiled/maladjusted. I've known children with many siblings who are lonley/spoiled/maladjusted too. Anecdote does not equal data.

Yes all of the above!!

michaelaskedlauren · September 2012

I think football season is annoying (mainly due to all the 'Go G-Men!' posts on FB I just read) and I hate how it effs with our Sunday plans (DH is obsessed with the Jets).

jnickers98 · September 2012

LibraryChica:
I'm too lazy to paint my own toenails. DD is on her own.

My UO: Only children are not all spoiled, they are not all lonely, they are not all socially maladjusted. There is no science to back up the theory that they are and if one more person asks me when I'm having a second and reacts with shock when I say I don't know if I am -- as if I were abusing the poor kid -- I'm going to scream. Don't tell me about how you once knew this only child once and they were lonely/spoiled/maladjusted. I've known children with many siblings who are lonley/spoiled/maladjusted too. Anecdote does not equal data.

I have the same problem. We are not planning on having more children. When people react that way I tell them I was an only child and that usually shuts them up.

I want to give my DD every opportunity that I can, I don't think there is anything wrong with that. As long as she is taught to appreciate what she has, she will not be spoiled.

Huahine · September 2012

michaelaskedlauren:
I think football season is annoying (mainly due to all the 'Go G-Men!' posts on FB I just read) and I hate how it effs with our Sunday plans (DH is obsessed with the Jets).

This. Baseball season is more so, because it lasts for-ev-errrrrr. Really, I could do without all professional sports.

michaelaskedlauren · September 2012

Re: spoiled

My UO is that all children are spoiled to an extent (and why not, I know I was spoiled, and I know I will end up spoiling my kids) -- it is whether or not they are a *spoiled brat* that makes the difference.

Another thought as I reread what I just wrote: the word 'spoiled' sounds strange after a while.

sanbry · September 2012

I can't stand football, or really most pro sports. We live in Vegas, which means sports betting, which means my husband will be at the casino a lot. I miss the days when he could care less about football.

wychets · September 2012

Re: DD will be our only child and we are okay with that.

I would paint her toes but her toenails are sooo tiny lol (next summer)

I do and will continue to spoil DD but she will not be a brat.

I HATE, HATE< HATE SPORTS!! Dh is obessed with ALL sports UGH!!! Angry

I side eye parents who let their children act nuts in public!!

My UO (finally lol) I think not showering everyday is GROSS Ick!

PsyDr04 · September 2012

I'm an only child and after all was said and done, I turned out ok. In fact I make a living helping other people be ok.

My UO is that I want another baby eventually but when I think about having to breastfeed/pump, get up every few hours to nurse the baby, deal with sleep issues, baby crying and me not knowing what is wrong, etc. it makes me not want to have another one. I know I will have another despite all of that (if we are blessed and meant to have another) but I feel a little guilty for saying that I cringe a bit at the thought of going through all of that again.

bigbear · September 2012

PsyDr04:

I'm an only child and after all was said and done, I turned out ok. In fact I make a living helping other people be ok.

My UO is that I want another baby eventually but when I think about having to breastfeed/pump, get up every few hours to nurse the baby, deal with sleep issues, baby crying and me not knowing what is wrong, etc. it makes me not want to have another one. I know I will have another despite all of that (if we are blessed and meant to have another) but I feel a little guilty for saying that I cringe a bit at the thought of going through all of that again.

I think, whether people choose to admit it or not, most of us feel that way a bit. Especially if you had a "difficult" baby. The first few weeks and months are hard! Yes, also and most of all wonderful, rewarding, amazing and so much more but also very HARD.

We definitely want to have another baby but I too have days where I think to myself 'dang, that will be a tough one, I can definitely wait a little longer to go through that again'. Also, I always think about the fact that I'll have my DD around too who will need her mommy, too so it will be harder in certain ways. At least with DD it was only her and I didn't have to worry about taking care of a toddler. That certainly adds more to the mix.

So I know where you are coming from

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