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June 2012 Moms
slowlyspeeding
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MIL vent
slowlyspeeding
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I hate her... and I don't say that about very many people at all. I find her to be inappropriate, intrusive, and attention seeking. DH doesn't see it and totally enables her. His parents got divorced when he was a teenager and he took over the "man of the household" role and is constantly looking after her. He is such a momma's boy as much as he doens't like to admit it. She constantly asks to watch LO (it doesn't help she lives less than a mile from us) and I don't feel comfortable. I cringe everytime she holds him or kisses him. (Isn't that terrible?) I have my reasons... mainly the fact she is a closet drinker. And a rather heavy drinker at that.
Then, there was the time we first left LO alone with her for a quick run to Target. I came back home to a baby left in a urine soaked outfit/blanket/swing and her pacing at the door waiting for us to come back (we were gone for an hour max).
Oh, then the next time we left them alone together to go to a wake. Granted it was the day he got his 2 month shots and he was a little fussy but he was fine when we left (had a dose of tylenol and was fed) but she made him sound like his was a terror, she said "I wanted to cry right along with him!! He cried the whole time you were gone." When I asked if she tried any of the things DS liked she responded "No but I did have 3 kids of my own you know. I know what to do." No, clearly you don't know what to do lady. He was fine when we got home and for the rest of the night.
Last time she came to visit she held DS for 5 mins and then handed off to my DH "because he was drooling all over and getting me wet". Oh give me a friggen break.
Almost every time she is over and DS is a little fussy she says "I think he's hungry", even if we have just come back down from the nursery. I think she is really obessed with trying to watch me breastfeed. She tried to watch the first day in the hospital when I was an emotional mess and I couldn't get him to latch on and I screamed at her. She still doesn't get the picture....
*phew* I think I'm done. Did I mention I really friggin' hate her?
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Re: MIL vent
It's hard to believe she raised three kids and can't handle a little drool!!
My mil is also a pain...so I have no good advice for you, lol. However, when I pray tonight and ask for strength to deal with her, I'll pray for you too!!!!!
Good Luck! I'd tell her obviously LO is too much for you, so why watch him if you too much of a hassle for you. And I wouldn't let her watch him.
My MIL insists every weekend we need to go out & do something & leave LO alone so she can watch him. As it is we go & see her EVERY sunday! So she wants to spend Saturday AND Sunday with LO. And everytime she asks I tell her we aint going out every weekend let alone every month, I work five days a week & saturday is MY day..& I'm not about to "share" him with somebody who only constantly rocks him to sleep cause she likes him sleeping on her... I have to pry him away so he can do a little tummy time! (I'm actually looking forward to the day when LO can cry & hold his arms out when he wants to get away & I can tell her "Umm..he's upset he wants me not you, let him go!" I think the next time she tells me "its been a while since you guys went out, you guys need to go to dinner...& than see a movie...& than do some shopping & than just take a walk & talk" that I will tell her fine...but I'll be taking him Sunday & won't be bringing him over! And really ticks me off is she likes to tell DH we need to go out when I'm not around, hoping he can talk me into it, last time I was just in the other room & hollered no we ain't going out!! Sometimes i just wanna hit her!