Sooo...for the past week dh and I were in Seattle for a yearly family reunion. Now that I am off Clomid my cycles are returning to normal...instead of a 32 day cycle it has turned back into 28 days. I was watching the calendar closely and was REALLY hoping it would be late again...but af showed on time (dh didn't know what to do when I starting crying). Since I am starting injects this month, we had to come back to Oregon 3 days early to get the baseline U.S. and learn how to inject the shots on cycle day 3. We had to explain it all to his immediate family so they would understand that we HAD to leave early. They were actually really understanding. I had the shots with me just in case the doctor gave the ok to start before the baseline U.S. but we decided to just come home.
Anyway, there was a girl at the family reunion, someone that I never really liked when I first met her years ago. The minute we got there, her boyfriend announced to me (without even saying 'hi'), "we're expecting" along with a number of other people saying "did you hear?". All I knew was that I had to steer clear of her...I KNEW that she wouldn't shut up about it. Sure enough...I sat down, not realizing that she was next to me. She bluntly says "don't get pregnant" as she talked about how miserable she was...as I'm thinking 'geez, I hope my injects won't be stolen from our hotel room'...AND then she says "I just love it when women who have never been pregnant tell pregnant women like me to be happy that they're even pregnant in the first place". Uh hello...that's ME!!! This whole time I was silent, didn't respond to any of her comments and then she blurts this out. I stood up and walked away, in disbelief that she could just assume that I'm not TTC.
I can congratulate pregnant women and truly be happy for them. If they want to talk about how miserable they feel I'm open to listening to them. But the way this girl blurted out all of these thoughts when I wasn't even engaging in a conversation with her OR responding to any of her comments just blew me away. The fact that we've been TTC for almost 2 years now, doesn't help.
Just had to get this out. And yay it's time for another shot...
Re: First day of injects and stupid things that people say...
Really? No really? I commend you some fantastic avoid and deflect technique and walking away. I probably wouldn't have done the same thing, except I don't know, she is being such an ass, that I might have had to tell her to censor herself until she knows her audience! Ugh, just reading this makes me cranky.
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BFP#2 10/14/2011 - fetal demise - MC 12/13/2011
BFP#3 05/30/2012 - fetal demise - MC 07/23/2012
IVF#1 02/14/2013 - 2 Beautiful Blasts transferred
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IFV#2 07/02/2013 -BFP#5 - 07/07/2013
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At least I wasn't totally blindsided, I don't know why but I was prepared for her to eventually say something insensitive during the evening. These days I'm really trying to minimize stress, I did my best to not let it bother me TOO much. I also didn't want her to know anything about our issues, I think that is what made me just walk away and not show a reaction. I've also learned as a nurse that you just can't assume things about other people...you have no idea what someone else might be going through. Sometimes people get so wrapped up in their own happy news, that they don't realize it may be another person's struggle.
But yes, that is exactly what she said. I made sure to remember so I could repeat it here.
I tried to be humorous about it though with dh because a few hours prior, I told him that I was sure she would say something rude. And somehow I was right...