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  • kllrbnnykllrbnny
    Being long distance I'd probably send some and keep some. But it would depend on how often he was over and what kind of toys they were. Something that would be grown out of quickly would be sent home, otherwise what's the point? Things that would get a fair amount of use at my place would have a better chance of being hung on to.
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  • fauxshelleyfauxshelley member
    My XH is out of state and flies back about once a month to see the kids. He hosted the party at his parents house and that's where the toys stayed.  I thought it was weird but I didn't say anything at the time.  I hoped it wouldn't be a big deal to LO.  My son had a full day toddler meltdown and wanted his Cars toy when he came home. LO doesn't understand what's going on, he just wants his birthday presents.  I was really upset that I had to deal with the aftermath of giving a child a toy and then taking it away.  
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  • Littlejen22Littlejen22 member
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    My XH is out of state and flies back about once a month to see the kids.nbsp;He hosted the party at his parents house and that's where the toys stayed.nbsp;nbsp;I thought it was weird but I didn't say anything at the time.nbsp; I hoped it wouldn't be a big deal to LO.nbsp; My sonnbsp;had a full day toddler meltdown and wanted his Cars toy when henbsp;came home.nbsp;LO doesn't understand what's going on, he just wants his birthday presents. nbsp;I was really upset that I had to deal with the aftermath of giving a child a toy and then taking it away.nbsp;nbsp;

    I would try to write an email telling ex about what happened phrasing it that DS was so excited about his party and gifts and really wanted to play with them and ask if there was any way for him to bring the toy DS liked best or toys at his next visit because DS did not understand and that you would be more than happy to send it with him back to ex's house the next time he is there. And end it with how much DS talked about the great party and gifts he got, try to make ex feel good.
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  • HisChamaoleGirlHisChamaoleGirl member
    SS is 8 and we usually let him sort what he wants to keep at our home and what to take to BMs. Our visitation is so spread out that typically the next time he is in our home he isnt interested in playing with what he had left over from his last visit. However, we have had BM ask us NOT to send his toys home with him bc "my house already looks like a daycare center with all he has."

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  • fauxshelleyfauxshelley member
    I texted XMIL and asked her if LO could bring one of his toys home after he sees them the next time.  She said that was fine.  Also, XH called and I talked to him about it.  He is fine with it too.  It was just the one toy that LO really wanted, so since they are going to let him bring that toy home, I think he'll be happy.  Thanks for the input!
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