Vent: pregnant friends who want to deliver early

vsalt31 · September 2012

So, this is just a little nit, but it drives me crazy when I see pregnant friends posting on FB about how huge they feel and how they just want to get the last month over with. I've had friends even post about how they wish their babies would arrive early. I really have to restrain myself from commenting about my emergency c-section in which I wasn't even awake for teh delivery and what 44 days in the NICU is really like, etc.
UGH, so annoying!

OK vent over

nicole0066 · September 2012

DD was only 4 weeks early, but I completely agree. I am sure that the last month is hard, but I would never wish the worry we had on anyone. I do not think everyone realizes how important it is for a baby to stay "cooking", even after 37 weeks. I usually say something, but try not to get too preachy.

PhillyGal34 · September 2012

M&MHaveMyHeart:

I truly think that people who haven't experienced the NICU have NO idea how hard it is & they don't appreciate going full-term (being pregnant & having a full-term baby with no issues.)
You're not alone!

Amen op! And I totally agree with this. My secretary is pregnant and complains all the time. I usually love her but it's drivingme nuts.

Kadyra · September 2012

I made the mistake of posting on 3rd tri a few days ago on a thread where the op was looking for sympathy because she was tired and felt huge. I think she was 38 weeks, but regardless, she was wishing for if to be over. Some poor soul told me I sounded bitter. Perhaps I did, but sometimes people need to know how lucky they are to be tired and feel huge.

My BFF delivered about 10 days ago at 40w3d. She called every single day complaining about how uncomfortable she was and wishing for contractions. It was hard not to get mad since I am sitting in the hospital praying for no hemorrhageinducing contractions. But she's a FTM and scared. And frustrated. Just like anyone. Now she calls me every day asking how I'm doing and perking me up.

I think to a degree all us pregnant women are self centered and can't see beyond our own situation. I just try not to be that way. I'm thankful for every day I sit here in the hospital. And I try not to complain. So many people have it so much worse.

2bunnbunns · September 2012

I could have written this myself! It drives me absolutely crazy to hear my friends say how they wish their baby came early. I even had a friend say to me that I was lucky I didn't have to experience the end of my pregnancy because of how horrible she felt. Really? Like I wanted to deliver early and leave the hospital without my babies! They just don't get it!

sweetsugarmama · September 2012

some lady stopped me in target to comment on my twins (and how she's glad she's only having one), she was 31w pregnant. I said oh, that's when I delivered they were preemies. She said she wished she had twins so they could be born now. I kind of jokingly pointed out that she'd be stuck with a whole lot of NICU time she probably didn't want. She said, "yeah, but that's normal for twins. I wish I was that lucky." It took everything in me not to chase her down with statistics on avg twin delivery dates, costs of NICU stays, the stress of it all, etc. Not to mention, she wants twins just for the fun delivery but wouldn't want them at home? I don't know why she bugged me so much.

jcsntms06 · September 2012

I hear you! I get so annoyed and upset, but usually I just have to walk away from the computer or the person, when they may stupid @ss comments like this.

ShelbyMadison04 · September 2012

I have to agree with all of you! People have no clue how upsetting/exhausting/stressful a NICU stay can be. I get that pregnant girls are tired and uncomfortable but I would have gladly traded the hell we went through for being pregnant for 7 more weeks in the extreme heat.

I think what annoyed me the most was people telling me how "lucky" we were that our daughter was in the NICU and we could rest/relax at home. Trust me, there was absolutely no resting/relaxing. It probably was harder running back and forth to the NICU for 4 weeks as opposed to having her home. I was more exhausted doing that than when she actually came home.

SquishyMine · September 2012

Absolutely! I don't think people make the connection that part of NICU stands for "Intensive Care Unit". If we said "My sister's in Intensive Care" people would be all kinds of horrified.

It's also not a glorified babysitter. Its exhausting running back and forth every day. Even my grandma made an off the cuff comment to my dad about being able to "hand them back to the nurses everyday and go home and rest". Uh, yeah, that's actually the gut wrenching, heartbreaking part of it...not a perk.

IncogNeato · September 2012

I hear ya. Especially when people say things like, " Oh she's 36 weeks so basically full term." Uh no, 40 weeks is full term, 37 is "term" and even then still early.

My DD was 36 weeks which is nothing in the world of preemies, I know, but it was still scary and she still didn't come home with us when we were discharged. People just have no idea.

iristony · September 2012

So annoying. I will never forget when my son was in the NICU and one of my best friends (we had due dates 3 days apart) came to visit us and she was 34 weeks pregnant and would not stop complaining and saying how I was lucky I was not pregnant anymore. As my poor child was sitting in an isolette still in the NICU she had the audacity to say that.

urbanflowerpot · September 2012

YUP! That parts never gotten less irritating.

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