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2WW Optimism or Insanity?!?

It's so hard to walk the line between optimism and insanity during the 2WW...I feel really good about this month.  I had EWCM, we had great timing and I have an underlying feeling of success.  I don't know if I'm optimistic because of the EWCM and the timing or if it's an internal thing that I just feel.  Generally I'm trying to be optimistic each cycle we are TTC because I think it's better for my mental health and stress level to have a positive attitude.  Then there's the insanity...I literally look at my chart/calendar 10 times a day ( I'm not going to be any further from O if I look at my chart more often, I know...but I can't stop myself!).  I check out my potential due date, take a gander at the chinese gender predictor, and think about what the next 9mnths will be like if I do get KU this month...also pointless.  I'm nearing the "testable" part of my 2WW and just can't wait to see what comes of this cycle...the good or the bad!  I would like to wait to test on Sunday (12 DPO) but my mom is going away for 2 weeks on Saturday and will have spotty cell service during her trip so I think I might POAS on Saturday,so if it is my month I can tell her before she leaves.

....anyone else navigating this optimism vs. insanity tightrope??? 

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  • I'm only 4dpo and already going nuts. I know when my due date would be, how many weeks I would be at Thanksgiving and at Christmas, when we would announce, etc. So I think I'm just in the "insanity" group. Stick out tongue
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  • Definitely a mix of both!  I unfortunately read into every little possible sign, hoping for a BFP.  I tested yesterday (13 dpo) and it was negative.  My temps dropped on Monday and Tuesday as well.  I'm still holding out hope though!  My temp went up a smidge this morning.  This cycle isn't over until AF shows, right?  Hard to tell if all the "signs" I felt during the 2WW were all in my head!

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  • Yup I'm 6 DPO and the waiting is awful. I'm going on a work trip on the 13th, so I might test the day before even though it will only be 12DPO. Although, if it's negative I'll be blubbery mess the whole trip so maybe I should wait until I get back. Gah.
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  • I am right there with you 100%.  I am only 4dpo and I'm going nuts.  I even was doing a little browsing on BRU's website today.  I think I've gone off the deep end!

    ETA: And it doesn't help that FF moved my day to expect AF to 9/12 b/c I O'd early.  That is screwing with my head!

  • 100% with you! I must look at my chart 100 times a day! Like the FF gods are going to replace my CH with "LOLZ!!1 UR Tots KTFU!"

    I want to remain optimistic, but I feel the need to pepper it with a good solid dose of non-optimism... just in case. As if were I to get too optimistic, I would somehow jinx myself! I feel like a total lunatic! 

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  • Yes! This is my first 2ww. I'm trying to keep positive and also keep my mind off of it. The keeping my mind off it isn't working so well lol. I check my chart thinking it will change. FX this is the month for you!
  • I am 1dpo.  Yup, ONE. (my IUI was yesterday, and I triggered the day before)  And already going crazy.  Ok, not crazy enough for symptoms yet.  But crazy enough to be going back and forth between super optimistic, and just assuming we're going to have to move onto something different next cycle.

    *hugs*  You can do it!  FX for you!

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  • I waiver a lot.  The first week of the 2ww, I always feel pretty positive.  The second week I start to doubt.  By the end of the 2ww- I am a mess, but I have a feeling that a large part of that is the extra progesterone and estrogen I'm pumping into my system.

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    Definitely a mix of both!nbsp; I unfortunately read into every little possible sign, hoping for a BFP.nbsp; I tested yesterday 13 dpo and it was negative.nbsp; My temps dropped on Monday and Tuesday as well.nbsp; I'm still holding out hope though!nbsp; My temp went up a smidge this morning.nbsp; This cycle isn't over until AF shows, right?nbsp; Hard to tell if all the "signs" I felt during the 2WW were all in my head!FX for you!


    This almost exactly. I got a BFN on 13dpo but still no AF. My temp dropped today 14dpo, but is still above the cover line though I'm not sure of its accuracy this time around

    This is my first 2ww after our loss. I don't think I was ever on this much of a roller coaster before of being convinced that I am or am not PG. now I just want the wait to be over!

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  • I am always insane every 2WW.  I have become a pessimist. I know that sounds bad but I pretty much never expect a BFP. But, anytime I feel a cramp or a tingle in my boob, or am the least bit tired my DH and I start thinking crazy thoughts.  We literally run for the iPad so we can enter my "symptoms" then we have a good laugh at our paranoia.

  • I am a complete nutcase! This morning in the shower, I suddenly thought of the phrase "April showers bring May flowers". Of course, to me, this means our April loss will lead to our May baby. EDD for this cycle is 5/27.
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  • imagedensquared:
    I am a complete nutcase! This morning in the shower, I suddenly thought of the phrase "April showers bring May flowers". Of course, to me, this means our April loss will lead to our May baby. EDD for this cycle is 5/27.

    That is so sweet! I hope it this is your month.

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  • imagencchnat:
    I did the first couple of months of TTCAL and definitely the last chance I had before my due date. Now (and the months in between) I just obsess, no optimism. I hate that I am that way since it's only been six months for us and others have it worse, but honestly, I think not being optimistic is better for my heart and mental health when AF shows up.

     

    This. Mind you, I have found that I collapse after AF arrives whether I was hopeful or if I was just obsessing, so maybe it would be just as well to be hopeful but my optimism is in short supply at times. 

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  • Lindsay!!!! I am the exact same way. I'm 6 DPO and have probably allready looked at my chart 5 times today and its only 1:45Embarrassed  Last night DH was analyzing my chart and pointing out all the bding we did this cycle. He's so proud of himself lol and trying to be sooo optimistic but I just dont want to get my hopes up for a bfp.

    I just can't handle the disapointment I feel every cycle day1. Although I got KU'd on the first cycle when we conceived, I know we were lucky and it can take a healthy couple a year or more to get pregnant. Trying to keep that in the back of my mind so I don't get too disapointed month after month. Although easier said than done. Talk to me next week when I'm 12 DPO and really freaking out! Indifferent

    Good luck honey, I'm rooting for you!! Party!!! Lees xx

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  • Thanks ladies...glad to know I'm not the only one out there who is a 2WW lunatic! 

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    imagedensquared:
    I am a complete nutcase! This morning in the shower, I suddenly thought of the phrase "April showers bring May flowers". Of course, to me, this means our April loss will lead to our May baby. EDD for this cycle is 5/27.

    That is so sweet! I hope it this is your month.


    Thanks Boots! Hoping the same for you!
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  • imagetwotexans:
    I waiver a lot.  The first week of the 2ww, I always feel pretty positive.  The second week I start to doubt.  By the end of the 2ww- I am a mess, but I have a feeling that a large part of that is the extra progesterone and estrogen I'm pumping into my system.

    Pretty much this, minus the progesterone and estrogen. I'm just at the second week now, so I'm expecting a slow increase of the crazy over the next several days.

    I'm to the point now that I don't even want to POAS until 14dpo just because as long as I don't test, some part of my brain can still believe it actually worked.  

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  • imagetwotexans:
    I waiver a lot.  The first week of the 2ww, I always feel pretty positive.  The second week I start to doubt.  By the end of the 2ww- I am a mess, but I have a feeling that a large part of that is the extra progesterone and estrogen I'm pumping into my system.

    This 100%!  I have my insane moments too though ;-)

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