New person - dumb question?

Re: New person - dumb question?

• Jhontiel

  September 2012

  It really depends on your LO! I never let my LO get to the point of hysterically crying. If I lay him down, often times he'll fuss, or maybe let out a whine before falling asleep, and that is ok with me, but I do not practice CIO as I feel this breaks the trust my baby has with me in regards to listening to him and his needs. To me, CIO is not responding once DS is crying and obviously in distress. I am sure this standard varies from person to person. 

  If you are concerned that your LO is not sleeping in his or her own bed, make sure that you wait a good 15-20 minutes until your LO is dead asleep before laying them down. (I do the limp limb test, if I can lift DS's arm it falls right back down, he is out!)

  Also, for some babies, waiting to see his or her tired cues may be too long to wait! This was the case with DS. Once he was in this stage, he fought sleep really hard. I started timing his awake times (though inconsistent at different times of day) to see how long he went before sleeping, and tried to lay him down before this time. So if he started yawning at an hour after waking, I would try to lay him down at 45-50 minutes. 

   

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• judahsmommy1

  September 2012

  The goal is to make sleep safe for baby both physically and emotionally. So for many AP's CIO is off limits. However, I personally feel that there's a difference between a few whimpers or a small amount of fussing (which I feel my babies have been able to manage on their own) and true crying. It really depends on your baby's reaction. In your gut do you feel that the fussing your child is doing is at a level that is detrimental to them and/or your relationship? I think that many parents can allow some fussing and remain true to APing principle, but other babies may need something different. What makes sleep emotionally safe for one baby may not be sufficient for another.
  

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• TiffanyBerry member

  September 2012

  Ditto on the idea that it depends on the baby.  The idea that baby could be put down awake (but drowsy) and only fuss and not scream was laughable with my daughter.  There was no fussing, just screaming.  I don't like CIO, so we never did that.  Figure out what works FOR YOU and YOUR BABY, though you might have to get creative if you've got a tough nut.

  
  

  

  

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• Tweets06

  September 2012

  Thanks everybody!

  She is a great baby.  For naps she starts to fuss the minute I lay her down which I don't have much trouble with (the eh-eh-ehhh fussing), but she never settles herself back down.  It always escalates into crying.  So I've been settling her to the point that she closes her eyes in my arms, then giving her a kiss and putting her in the crib and leaving.  Sometimes she is crying before I've even left the room though.  I don't think that it is damaging to her, but it tears my heart out to hear her cry even for 5 minutes : ( .  I guess I'm just worried because I have to go back to work and I'm sure that the daycare providers are not going to have time to spend 2 hours rocking her to sleep.  I don't want her to be any more traumatized by the change to daycare so I'm trying to help her achieve some independence right now.  .... much as I hate it.

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• ncbelle member

  September 2012

  If you want a different perspective on sleep, try the No Cry Sleep Solution.

  
  

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