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April 2012 Moms
I am spineless and it really needs to change.
I was baby wearing while at the farmers market today with LO in my ring sling. This woman (an employee) came up to me and was talking to me about how adorable lo was. Next thing I know she starts rubbing her head and kissing the top of her head. I took a step back and laughed awkwardly said thank you and walked away. I should have said something then. As I was checking out she came up again and told me how uncomfortable my lo looked in the sling. I told her, "No, she is fine, she likes it." The she starts trying to open up my ring sling so I hold lo with my arm and say "She is fine." LO starts laughing so the lady sticks her finger in LO's mouth. I turned away and felt so violated and I am so angry at myself for not telling this woman to back off when she first was overstepping the line in the beginning. Usually I don't have an issue with people touching lo, not the face or head but on her arm or feet. No one has ever tried to touch her face like that and I guess I just got overwhelmed/confused.
I should have said something and am so non-confrontational that I did nothing. I seriously feel like a siht mom. DH told me that this spineless thing needs to end and I am no longer worrying about me but lo as well...
He also wants me to go back to the store and complain to the manager but yet again I am nervous to do so because I should have told her to stop myself instead of going above her head.
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Re: I am spineless and it really needs to change.
Ew! I wouldn't have said anything the first time either, but take a hint, lady! Also, I don't think it's your responsibility to confront the employee. Don't be nervous about taking to management. It's one thing to be friendly, but that lady needs a lesson in boundaries.
Yeah that too.
Ewww, Creepy McCreeperson!!!!
I would have been in shock too probably, but you better bet I would call afterward.
That is really creepy, I don't think I would have known what to do either, so don't feel bad!
Consider telling management though, so they can train their employees not to touch random babies, especially in the mouth
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I probably wouldn't have said anything the first time either, but I would have been royally skeeved out with the finger in the mouth. Ewwww. Who in their right mind thinks that is okay to do?
I am sorry this happened. I probably wouldn't say anything, but just be prepared to say something the next time you go.
It sounds like she may have had some sort of disability. I don't think the average person would think it's ok to maul a person's baby, kiss them AND stick their nasty finger in the baby's mouth all in one store visit.
I, on the other hand am mean as a snake and would have let her have it. If you're not comfortable complaining in person, you could always send an email if you can describe the woman. Sorry that happened to you.
That is bizarre! Who would ever stick their finger in a baby's mouth? That is probably one of the strangest and offensive things I have ever heard done to a baby. The touching and a kiss on the head I can kind of understand.
I probably wouldn't have said anything the first time, but I definitely would have said something after the finger in the mouth incident.
It may sound silly, but try to rehearse some things in your head you can say if you're put in a situation like that again. (This is what we teach the kids AND teachers to do in school in a bullying situation.) That way you don't have to think on the spot and you can pull out of your arsenal.
So... you could say, "She's just getting over a cold, would you mind not touching her please?" Or... "Please only touch her feet, thanks! I'm weird about germs." Or... "Please look but don't touch my baby. Thanks so much!" Pair it with a smile and walk away. No need to be rude, just be prepared to tell someone no and mean it!
And don't be so hard on yourself. We're all still figuring this mom thing out. It's not as easy it looks!