Tired of keeping up the charade!

crystalssong02 · September 2012

Haven't told the family yet and I am getting tired of acting like I am not naseus, tired, etc. I missed some events at church recently (we hold positions in church, so we are there all the time) and my husbands grandmother thinks that I am pregnant and she has told my mother in law, but we haven't confirmed anything yet. We were trying to wait the three months, but my family is nosy and I am just ready to get it out so I can relax and be myself!

JuliaSugarbaker72311 · September 2012

I say go for it (if you're ready to tell)! I have felt so much better since telling most of our family and friends- it just feels more real and it is a lot of fun to have our families sharing in our excitement. I was scared to tell too, just in case, but it really does feel better to have everyone know. Best wishes with whatever you decide!

tcfreedom · September 2012

I'm a blabber. I can't imagine the stress of keeping a secret like that. If its more stress than a bennefit to you at this point I say it's time to share the news.

Good luck!

JenW3611 · September 2012

There was no way I could have held off 3 months with my family. The way I see it, I would want their support if something bad happened. Especially if it's creating stress, I say tell them!

Mrs.Leah.Maria · September 2012

I'm right there with you.

crystalssong02 · September 2012

Thanks for the advice ya'll. We decided to go ahead and tell people today especially since my husbands grandma already guessed it and we basically had to sorta lie to her and it is very stressful trying to dodge questions. We were trying to wait until wednesday when I get another ultrasound, but whatever. Things don't always go as planned! We just told my mother and she is very supportive and it is nice to have the support.

drtarajp · September 2012

Here is my take... I tell those people who are close to me that i would turn to for support if this pregnancy didnt work out. I couldn't imagine going through a loss without the support of my family and close friends. So, i told them right away. I want those people to know the ups and the downs in my life. I dont see the point of waiting until the 3 month mark to share with those close to you

bradensmommy08 · September 2012

I miscarried with my last pregnancy in Jan of this year and we just got our BFP on Friday. I could not be more excited...and nervous. My rule this time with telling people is I am telling people I would want support from if something does happen again. I told my parents In laws and close friends and family. These are the people I will want to know if I do miscarry. I would stick with that. If you wouldn't want to tell them you miscarried don't tell them your pregnant. Congrats!

JSS1002 · September 2012

Ditto to all of this -- we told our parents and my brother/SIL as soon as we could see them all in person... haven't really told friends yet. I've told my best friend but that is it -- she just had a baby and I needed somebody to talk to! As for the rest of the friends -- it isn't that I don't want them to know, but one person tells just one person, and then that person tells one person adn so on and so forth and pretty soon it is all over FB... we just wanted to keep it quiet until we've told all our family personally and until we are through the first tri... but it hasn't been easy!

That said, I'm telling a few girlfriends this week because we have a wine dinner / bachelorette party for one of my best friends and I'll have to explain why I -- notorious wine ddrinker -- and sober!

PansyPants · September 2012

I know what you mean!!!

My MIL looked me dead in the eye today and asked "How are your periods going? Have they evened out yet?"

I have a very open relationship with her and had talked to her about postpartum irregularity this past summer when my cycle first started up. But this came after I literally passed out on her sofa from exhaustion today and after she informed me that second+ pregnancies will cause me to show earlier than the first one. That last comment came complete with a raised eyebrow and long pause.

danuli8 · September 2012

Glad you told your close family. I agree with bradensmom--if you wouldn't want someone to know you had a miscarriage, don't tell them you're pregnant until you're further along. Fx that your Wed u/s looks fantastic!

youmakemyheartsmile · September 2012

I totally understand. It's hard and I AM NOT ready to share. First off I'd like to wait til at least first ultrasound... if not closer to 12 weeks.

I already dread when the topic comes up b/c it's harder and harder to lie.

I feel your pain

tondraluv · September 2012

JenW3611:
There was no way I could have held off 3 months with my family. The way I see it, I would want their support if something bad happened. Especially if it's creating stress, I say tell them!

I completely agree with you & this was my reason for telling.

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