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Pregnancy is everywhere :(

jap618jap618 member
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So I had my D&C on 8/15.  I stayed out of work the rest of that week and have been doing alright emotionally since.  But I've had 2 people in the past 2 weeks tell me they are pregnant.  Both are people I work with but one is my co-worker who sits directly behind me.  I almost started hyper ventalating and crying at the same time, it was the middle of the work day and I just didn't know what to do.  She didn't know anything but it still made me hate her out of sadness, jealousy & anger all at the same time.  I got up and went for a walk, contemplated buying a bottle of wine and bringing it back to my desk for the rest of the day (then decided I didn't want to get fired :-X).  I ended up telling her via text message that night so I didn't have to hear about it all of the time but I don't know what to do.  Now that everyone in the office knows she is pregnant (and only 8 weeks) and very few know about my miscarriage and there is another co-worker that is pregnant, who is due a week after I was :( and another co-workers wife is due in December AND OUR OFFICE ONLY HAS 15 PEOPLE IN IT!!  I just needed to vent because I feel like no one else understands how much it hurts to hear this so soon.  All I can think about is that this should be me telling everyone and I was going to next week once I hit 13 weeks :(  I just want this pain in my heart to go away and to stop feeling like a failure and broken.  Thanks for listening. 
Married the love of my life June 18, 2011 -- Me (28) DH (29)
TTC #1 since June 2012
BFP #1 6.29.12 EDD 3.12.13 MMC discovered 8.11.12 9w5d D&C 8.15.12
BFP #2 11.2.12 EDD 7.14.13 MMC 6w5d discovered 8w6d 2 failed rounds miso D&C 12.27.12
BFP #3 8.5.13 EDD 4.18.14 MMC 7w4d discovered 9.25.13 at 10w6d -Trisomy 13- 1 round miso & emergency D&C 10.2.13
RPL Testing. DX Asherman's November 2013. Low AMH (0.44) January 2014. 
Operative Hysteroscopy January 2014 to remove scar tissue.
BFP#4 6.18.14 EDD 3.3.15 Team Pink
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  • jap618jap618 member
    Oh and just to add, everyone in my extended family that didn't know I was pregnant (I have 30 first cousins, if one of them knew they'd all know.. not including their spouses & my aunts & uncles) that I have seen in the past 2 weeks has talked about me being pregnant, when will we get pregnant, blah blah blah.  I just want to hide in a hole :(  Pity party over.  End rant. 
    Married the love of my life June 18, 2011 -- Me (28) DH (29)
    TTC #1 since June 2012
    BFP #1 6.29.12 EDD 3.12.13 MMC discovered 8.11.12 9w5d D&C 8.15.12
    BFP #2 11.2.12 EDD 7.14.13 MMC 6w5d discovered 8w6d 2 failed rounds miso D&C 12.27.12
    BFP #3 8.5.13 EDD 4.18.14 MMC 7w4d discovered 9.25.13 at 10w6d -Trisomy 13- 1 round miso & emergency D&C 10.2.13
    RPL Testing. DX Asherman's November 2013. Low AMH (0.44) January 2014. 
    Operative Hysteroscopy January 2014 to remove scar tissue.
    BFP#4 6.18.14 EDD 3.3.15 Team Pink
    --AL always welcome--
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  • dozersmomdozersmom member
    I feel the same exact way. My co-worker is due 3 weeks after I should have been due , and my boss's wife is due 1 week after. It sucks. I guess the world is cruel sometimes. And when I tell my friend's this, they don't seem to understand why I might be so upset about someone else's pregnancy. It's not that I want them to not have a baby- I just want to have one too!
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  • miakritamiakrita

    I am so sorry that you are going through this!  Its hard enough to manage our own feelings about ourselves not being pregnant anymore.  Add to that having to deal with everyone else being pregnant/having babies . . . its just terrible. 

    I have a friend who just told me that she was pregnant.  I broke down and told her that I had a MC.  At the bottom of my heart - I don't know how i feel.  I guess I'm somewhat happy for her.  But honestly, she is only 7 weeks.  I don't know how i would feel if she gets to be really pregnant.  I don't think I will be so happy for her then . . .  Thats supposed to be me!  She didn't even plan this!

    xoxoxo

    Mother to 3 angels: D&C May 2006 - My cherry blossom child. TTC since March 2012. BFP March 2012; CP March 2012 - 4 weeks 1 day. BFP July 8, 2012; No HB August 6, 2012 - 8 weeks 2 days. M/C August 21, 2012. Cremated in our backyard 5 days later. Starting charting 10/29/12. Stalk me at My Ovulation Chart
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  • KikiCohenKikiCohen member
    I'm so sorry for your loss.  It does seem like pregnancy is every where.  Several of my close friends are pregnant and it seems like I can't go a day without someone announcing on FB.  All I can say is hang in there.  You can always vent here :)  (hugs)
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  • DeeC12DeeC12

    I'm so sorry and I know exactly how you feel. Both of my sister-in-laws are pregnant and due in the next couple of months, and since my m/c, 8 girls have announced their pregnancy! It's so hard and so painful. I hope it gets a little easier for you day by day and that you'll be able to join in with the great news again soon :)  

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  • TAGoldenTAGolden

    I'm so sorry, dear!

    I know exactly how you feel, and believe me, I've had my fair share of wine over the past three months. It does seem like everyone is pregnant now, and I don't know if it's just because I lost my baby. Would I even notice or care about all the women at the mall, grocery, etc are expecting? And, like, every celebrity on the planet? Not to mention, three of my closest friends? 

    I pray it gets easier for you. Take care of yourself and allow yourself to feel whatever you're going to feel, hon. ((HUGS))

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