leaving for the hospital pics vent

avanvorce · September 2012

So my MIL just told us that we HAVE to take pictures when I go into labor before we leave the house. I tried to say I wasn?t really interested in the photo opportunity and she was pretty insistent that you have to take pictures and it?s the prime time blah blah blah. I am trying to blow it of but now DF is on her side saying what?s the big deal if it makes her happy. The big deal is that I?m in freaking labor and if I don?t want to get a picture taken then I don?t freaking have to!!! I know this is probably not a big deal because if it?s 2 am there is no way anyone is getting near me with a camera and we probably won?t wake her up anyway. (FYI MIL recently moved in with us and while she is super sweet I am having a difficult time adjusting.) And maybe I am just being hormonal about this, but no one is going to the hospital with us because we want it to be private, no pics until after the birth, and I feel that when I go into labor I should call the shots. If you want pics of me prego I can give you a copy of my maternity pics, but you are not taking them as I walk out to door to deliver a baby. Is this unreasonable or should I just let her take the damn pics?

PhillyPhan · September 2012

Not unreasonable at all. If you don't want pictures then no pictures it is.

MeatballEsq · September 2012

I don't think you're unreasonable at all. I would never even have thought to take pictures before going to the hospital. I've never even heard of that. I'm with you, I doubt I would be super photogenic at that moment!

drubie · September 2012

I'm with you - your labor, your choice.

kelbel527 · September 2012

Your labor your rules. That goes for everything, including taking pictures before leaving for hospital. I'd be annoyed too if my MIL tried to dictate anything like that.

FWIW, I actually did take a picture on my way to the hospital with DS. I was 40w 5 days and had been taking weekly bump pictures, so I wanted one last one. It was in the middle of the night and I didn't look great, but it was for me...not for anyone else.

stella_blu · September 2012

I think you get to decide for sure but I think you are blowing it out of proportion a little. I have a belly pic from the hospital with DD when they first hooked up the monitors. I kind of love that shot. *** got real not too long afterwards but at that moment, I was just anxious and excited and it's a fun memory to have. I wouldn't rule it out til you are in the moment. Just say we'll see how it goes and move on.

BostonDble · September 2012

If my MIL said that I would laugh in her face and the picture she would get would be of me flipping her off as I leave the house.

cautionwillburneyes · September 2012

It kind of reminds me of taking a first day of school picture. Lol! There is no way that I would be posing for a going to the hospital shot. It would be kind of hard to smile while in pain I would think.. Your labor, your rules.

swgal · September 2012

I did it with both of mine and i really like having those pictures, but I was induced so it wasn't like I was in active labor. If you don't feel like taking them than just say no.

redneckmomma25 · September 2012

I like the idea. And if I am not in a ton of pain, I'd like to take one last picture. However, if my MIL was demanding me to, I would probably not take the picture. I do plan on trying to at least.

carmendanielle · September 2012

BostonDble:
If my MIL said that I would laugh in her face and the picture she would get would be of me flipping her off as I leave the house.

THIS! Exactly.

mamaHippo23 · September 2012

This is such a "mom" request LOL wanting pics of everything. There will be so many other special moments surrounding the birth, you'll have plenty of other chances for "Aw" pictures.

carrie7877 · September 2012

This is your experience, not MIL's. I would remind her really quickly of this in the most nice way possible. :

jujeevu · September 2012

I don't think I would want any pictures of myself while I am having labor pains... taking pictures would be the last thing on my mind!

LauraJB313 · September 2012

I'm hoping it works out to take a picture when I'm really early in labor just to have one picture of me being maximally pregnant. I would love to capture the excitement and nervousness of that moment. BUT, I've noticed that I'm becoming very stubborn with my mom (MIL knows enough to stay out of the way on these things) and have refused to do some of her photo suggestions just because I didn't like being told what to do. If you are home during early labor, maybe let her take a picture then and then you can refuse when the going gets really tough and you just want to be out the door on the way to the hospital.

It is totally understandable to be feeling this way, especially with your MIL living with you. You are an adult and don't really need that much "parenting." I'm sorry it's stressful. Try to pick the route that will lead to the least bitterness (on either side) down the road. GL!

teacherjess · September 2012

My MIL is like a camera addict and spends all her time while she's visiting following us around with a camera. It p!ssed me off after I had DD because I was a hot mess and she wouldn't stop taking pictures of me when I wasn't looking, etc. Put your foot down or it will never stop once the baby's here...trust me.

misspunky · September 2012

What's unreasonable is that you would be expected to pose for a photo shoot while you're in labor. When hospital time comes, the only thought in my head is going to be getting to the hospital to meet LO. Definitely not pictures. If my MIL insisted on pictures, she could take ones of my ass walking out the door and leaving her behind with her camera.

olsentobe · September 2012

With DS I was induced and DH took a pic of me as we were waiting for them to bring us to our room. This time I went into labor (a few hrs before my RCS) so last thing on my mind was to take a pic. However, DH did take a pic of me with his iphone as I was laying in L&D triage being prepped. I look fantastic.....got to love him, lol.

If you dont want any pictures then no pictures. This is YOUR day!

lindsay.lou · September 2012

I will say, I took a few pics (well, my mom did) of DH and I right before we left for L&D and I absolutely cherish them. My situation was different, though, I was on my way in to get induced, so I felt great and up for pics. My point is, if you're up for it, I'd take a few, but NOT for MIL's sake. In fact, I might never even show them to her if I were you just b/c she's being such a brat. Bottom line, don't get bullied into taking any pics you don't want to take, HOWEVER, I don't think you'll ever look back and say you wished you didn't have so many pictures, kwim?

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