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Is anyone else's bed time routine in excess of 2 hours? And other random thoughts

hass2001hass2001
in April 2012 Moms

Ours is. I feel like I'm doing something wrong.

8pm. We go to my room and I nurse her in the dark with her white noise machine. About 9 when she is good and asleep I will put her in her bassinet next to my bed. I wait a few minutes to make sure she won't wake up and when the coast is clear I go to the living room so I can try to get some adult time with dh and pump. 80% of the time she starts crying 10 min later. So I have to go back in, put her back on the boob. This time it doesn't take her as long to fall asleep but by that time dh is ready for bed so he comes in, falls asleep in the meantime, while I put her back down. It's about 10pm now.

And I still have to go pump. Once in a while I'll have to nurse her back to sleep a third time but mostly it's only twice. Am I trying to make her bedtime too early? Maybe I should just keep her up with us to tire her out more. She needs to eat at 8 so it just seems natural to nurse her to sleep at that time.

Also I am seriously considering an iPad. Does iPad make you use bump mobile? This might just be a deal killer.

Is it just me or does it seem like other ladies have 40 hours in a day whereas my day goes by in a flash? How do those with multiples watch after their kids, manage the household, cook dinner, take award winning photos for the contest, make sock leggings, and watch documentaries on tv? I feel lost!

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Re: Is anyone else's bed time routine in excess of 2 hours? And other random thoughts

  • adrianacastro08adrianacastro08

    My DD did this too when we first transitioned her to her crib. It took a good month before she was able to stay asleep the first time. Does your LO take a paci? This helps. I'm afraid of the day I have to take the paci away because it's the only way she goes to sleep.

    Also, iPad doesn't make you use bump mobile. But I don't think you can post pictures on it, at least I don't know how to 

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  • Harper'smomHarper'smom
    Does she seem tired before that first session? D gets unmistakably tired but it was harder to read her sister's cue until she was older.
    Get an IPad. No Bump Mobile. I can't believe I didn't have an IPhone or IPad when H was tiny back in the stone ages of 2009.
    I have not watched a movie since D was born. It is a goal for me and DH to watch something besides sports or The Kardashians since we have a 3 day weekend. I Bump a lot while I work but I also work a lot. I just got done sending a dozen emails since my contacts in Asia just woke up and work Saturdays.
    I was in a cloud, not a bad one but a fuzzy one, for the first 2 years of motherhood but emerged and decided it wasn't so bad that I couldn't do it again.
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  • huahualovehuahualove member
    Ds doesn't have much of a bedtime routine at all but he goes to bed at night pretty easy, naps and then when he wakes up in the middle of the night he doesn't. I normally bump when he is nursing, or when he won't let me sit him down.... Or like right now when I'm waiting for him to fall back asleep so that I can go to sleep. No one can do it all, I think you can do a little bit at a time, but not it all. Even when I was work a whole lot before ds I never had the time/energy to make dinner as much as I do now. I thought that my days and weeks would go by so much slower being at home, but they feel like they go by faster when I'm not counting down to the weekend like I used to. If you want with your dd, you could try keeping her up a little later, like 15 mins at a time for a few days before adding another 15 mins to see how she reacts, I just don't want her to get over tired and freak out and not be able to go to sleep.
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  • hass2001hass2001

    I just tried to edit my run on paragraph because of stupid bump mobile but it's stuck. I'm finally out in the living room for my evening pump on my computer.

    DD does take a paci, it helps so much already. She definitely gives she sleepy cues around 8pm. Maybe I'll just try to keep her up a little longer, but I fear that she will get overly tired and that is almost worse. She is a really great sleeper, it's just getting her down initially which is tough. It's like she knows when I leave the room, a sixth sense. 

    HarpersMom: I have yet to watch a movie either!! I am keeping up with the Kardashians (ha) and Big Brother but thats about it. DH and I don't have any time anymore and I am beginning to miss it.

    I might start her on oatmeal this weekend. Pedi told us to go ahead once a day. Maybe that will give her a full tummy and it will be easier for her to get to sleep. 

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  • gisa886gisa886 member
    Have you ever considered having your husband take her that first time she wakes up while you pump? He can try comforting her with a paci and after you are done if she is still awake you can take over. I bump from my phone almost exclusively and do it while rocking Owen. I rarely clean when alone and dinner is usually something I can crockpot.
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  • hass2001hass2001
    imagegisa886:
    Have you ever considered having your husband take her that first time she wakes up while you pump? He can try comforting her with a paci and after you are done if she is still awake you can take over. I bump from my phone almost exclusively and do it while rocking Owen. I rarely clean when alone and dinner is usually something I can crockpot.


    No actually we haven't tried that. It Is most likely she is comfort sucking the second and third time round. I might suggest that to dh.
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  • TrudyCampbellTrudyCampbell member
    imagehass2001:
    imagegisa886:
    Have you ever considered having your husband take her that first time she wakes up while you pump? He can try comforting her with a paci and after you are done if she is still awake you can take over. I bump from my phone almost exclusively and do it while rocking Owen. I rarely clean when alone and dinner is usually something I can crockpot.


    No actually we haven't tried that. It Is most likely she is comfort sucking the second and third time round. I might suggest that to dh.


    You should def try this because she isn't hungry if she just nursed to sleep. If V wakes up shortly after she fell asleep I always have DH go in. He comforts her more easily than I can because she sees me and wants the boob.
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  • PinkPeony6210PinkPeony6210 member

    Our routine used to last that long. I would feed her, rock her until she fell asleep, and then put her down. She would cry, so I would pick her up and rock her again; the cycle would repeat many times. Kate had no self soothing skills what so ever...she couldn't put herself to sleep whether it be in the car, crib, or swing. When she was a little over 4.5 months, I started sleep training using the Ferber Method (you check on the baby in time intervals...3 minutes, 5 minutes, etc). Because I put her down in the crib while she was drowsy (something she never experienced before), she began to cry. It took about 2 nights, but she started to put herself back to sleep when she woke up.

    At this point, I rock her after I feed her until she's almost asleep. I put her in the crib, give her the paci and leave. If she starts to all out cry, I go back and rock her again, which is against the "sleep training rules", but she rarely cries anymore. If anything, she'll "talk" to herself, turn on her side, and go to sleep. This also helped with her going back to sleep after her MOTN feeding...it used to take forever.

    I know it's not for everyone, but sleep training for those couple days saved my sanity. There was no possible way I could let the 2+ hour bedtime routine continue...especially when she only slept on me for naps, so my whole day was spent getting her to go to sleep. Now I can come downstairs and get things done once the girls are sleeping.

    Good luck!  

    ETA: I never wanted an iPad before, but my school gave them to us as a teacher appreciation gift, and I absolutely love it! I would definitely recommend getting one!  

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  • vtwd40vtwd40 member

    Ours used to be that long too. Now, I start nursing her around 745 or 8. Whenever she's done, I take her upstairs, rock her and read a book, then put her down when she's almost asleep. Sometimes she goes right to sleep. Other times she fusses and someone has to go back in and rock her some more. DH tries to take that first wake up. I don't want her too used to just going to sleep for me. Granted, she usually WANTS it to be me and it takes longer for him to get her settled, but it always happens. She's usually asleep by 915 these days.

    And, I'm pretty sure that days shortened to about 15 hours when I went back to work. I teach, so I'm up at 5 to pump, shower, feed, DD, get to daycare and work by 7:30. After work I pump again, pick up DD and get home around 6. Then it's time to feed her, make dinner, get her ready for bed, feed her again. 

    Then, at 9, I can start my work. I lesson plan and grade papers until 12 or 1am and start the whole thing over again. I don't even turn the TV on most days. Fridays are girls day here. DH is a band director, so he has Friday night football. DD and I hang out, I eat a fast food dinner, she stays up later than usual. Then, I watch crap TV or something DH wouldn't want to watch. Last night I made leg warmers. I refuse to do anything work related or cleaning on Friday night. I ned a few hours for me. On a side note. My house is not clean right now. Well, it's CLEAN but it needs to be picked up terribly. There is no time to clean during the week

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  • FlyHigh37FlyHigh37
    My dd does her best to eat to get by throughout the day while I'm at work (lately it's been 7-10ounces), so we pretty much cluster feed at night and take a couple hours to eat/settle down.  I can't do much at night, especially when seems to be eating more/spurting.  In fact, these last few nights she's been up a lot during the night as well.  
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  • hass2001hass2001
    imagePinkPeony6210:

    Our routine used to last that long. I would feed her, rock her until she fell asleep, and then put her down. She would cry, so I would pick her up and rock her again; the cycle would repeat many times. Kate had no self soothing skills what so ever...she couldn't put herself to sleep whether it be in the car, crib, or swing. When she was a little over 4.5 months, I started sleep training using the Ferber Method (you check on the baby in time intervals...3 minutes, 5 minutes, etc). Because I put her down in the crib while she was drowsy (something she never experienced before), she began to cry. It took about 2 nights, but she started to put herself back to sleep when she woke up.

    At this point, I rock her after I feed her until she's almost asleep. I put her in the crib, give her the paci and leave. If she starts to all out cry, I go back and rock her again, which is against the "sleep training rules", but she rarely cries anymore. If anything, she'll "talk" to herself, turn on her side, and go to sleep. This also helped with her going back to sleep after her MOTN feeding...it used to take forever.

    I know it's not for everyone, but sleep training for those couple days saved my sanity. There was no possible way I could let the 2+ hour bedtime routine continue...especially when she only slept on me for naps, so my whole day was spent getting her to go to sleep. Now I can come downstairs and get things done once the girls are sleeping.

    Good luck!  

    ETA: I never wanted an iPad before, but my school gave them to us as a teacher appreciation gift, and I absolutely love it! I would definitely recommend getting one!  

    Luckily DD is great at putting herself to sleep after the MOTN feed. It takes about 15 - 20 min for me to change her, feed her and she's back in her bassinet drowsy and she goes right down. I don't know what it is about the initial getting to sleep! 

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