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Worried about being left alone with DD
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DH's one week of leave ends and he has to go back to work on Tuesday. I am still not really recovered from the c/s and afraid to be left alone. I know my dad and friends will come over and help, but I am just afraid something will happen with DD and I won't be able to take care of her. I so wish DH could have one more week home with us until I felt at least 80 percent better!
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Re: Worried about being left alone with DD
Goodbye little angel(7/22/2011)....see you in heaven
Goodbye my second angel (9/18/2011)
Just take a deep breath, it will all work out. Remember if you become stressed and over-whelmed, just put the baby down and take a breather. A baby can cry, it's okay for that to happen.
When you're standing there and they are crying, just stay calm and treat it like a process of elimination. Are they hungry? y/n Do they need a new diaper? y/n Do they need to be burped? y/n Is the baby tired and wants to be rocked? y/n. Sometimes baby's cry because they are bored or over-stimulated. Try putting them in a swing or bouncer for a bit. Sometimes baby's just want to be held and cuddled. It depends on the child.
Try putting the baby in the stroller and going for a short walk if the weather is nice, fresh air is great for the mind and sanity. You're recovering from a c/s so don't over-do yourself. Take that walk when you're good and ready.
DS 2/23/10
DD 7/31/2012
My DH left 10 days after LO was born. He had a summer job out of state. I also had a c-section. I spent 2 wks alone at home and I hired a neighbor to come 2h/day to do the dishes and laundry. She ended up helping a lot with DD.
I was afraid of not being able to do it, but we are stronger than we think. GL and PM me if you like.
THIS!!! This is exactly what you need to do. I had a c-section and took my first walk 2 weeks pp. It was a short walk around the block. But It was enough to calm me and LO down. Also my DS loves to be in his carseat. So walks have been great with him! Good Luck Mama!! You can do it!
I understand - I was totally thrown by just how much my c-section recovery took out of me physically! As PPs said, you'll know 'what" to do instinctively. As for whether you'll physically be able to - you will. Just chuck everything other than that which is absoluetly necessary to care for LO off your plate. And accept all offers for help. Do try to get out of the house - movement at your pace will help you recover physcially and feel better emotionally. Ask your friends to go for a short walk with you and LO so that you can buildyour confidence there as well. Ask them to bring you a meal or make you a sandwich - whatever you need/want. Believe me - they WANT to help and will feel better knowing that the help they are giving is indeed what you need.
THese are all suggestions that worked for me. Good luck!
Don't worry! You will do awesome. To be honest, I bawled even before my DH left for work his first day back. I was so terrified! But we did alright. My mom gave me some great advice:
Get yourself ready for bed/house ready to be shut up, so when LO goes down for the night, you can right on to bed as well- no matter the time!
Our first day alone was a little scary but then I realized, "Hey, I'm the mother and (no offense to my DH) I've been doing all the work anyways!" I did have to go slow as I was recovery from a 2nd degree tear- not even close to a c section- so I sometimes didn't get to her as soon as I wanted. But I made peace with it.
As the PP said, do only what is needed and don't push yourself! Give yourself a break momma- you just had a sweet baby!