How to remain calm?

tryingtostaypositive · August 2012

I've had two previous losses and am pregnant again. I find myself constantly running to the bathroom to check to see if there are any changes and I analyze every single symptom. How do you remain calm during this? I'm worried all the time!

rkrichey · August 2012

Well, simply put, you don't remain calm. You will be worried almost every day and you'll probably go through a lot, A LOT of toilet paper. lol It's just part of being PgAL. Some days will be easier than others and some days you'll convince yourself that you really aren't pregnant anymore even though everything is fine. Being able to talk to other people who understand on this board can be a huge help b/c most people don't get it. Some ladies get dopplers so they can find a HB at home and they find that really reassuring. The only thing that helps me when I get really anxious and start analyzing everything is to just surrender it all to God or whatever higher power you might believe in. There really is nothing you can do, which sucks. You just have to tell yourself that you've done everything you can do and you have to put your trust into something/someone else. It will be hard but we're here for you!

angelacarmen · August 2012

Congratulations on your pregnancy! We all know exactly how you feel. We all go through different levels of anxiety and it is definitely hard to deal with. I lost my two early on, but still found it difficult to relax once I'd passed those milestones. The u/ss are great, do you know when you'll have your first u/s? I found in the beginning having my betas tested was reassuring. Once I was able to feel the baby moving on a regular basis my anxiety went way down. The ladies on this board have been a lifesaver for me, they all understand exactly what I'm going through and are incredibly supportive. I'm sending you sticky thoughts and hope you can relax a little bit, try to enjoy your pregnancy, though I know how hard it is. Hugs!

kneenah1231 · August 2012

The worry never goes away hun... good luck.. just keep in mind when ur PAL your always going to worry, once your baby is born you going to worry, once your baby starts school you going to worry.. Its the mommy in you.. Just take it easy as much as you can.. think positive.. I also had to loss.. onw @ 8wks a year ago and one @ 21wks two weeks ago.. My last pregnancy i was a nervous reck.. I would always doubt ck my tissue after using the bathroom. I have access to a sonogram so i would ck my baby when i felt uncertain.. I cant even imagine how i am going to be when i start too ttc again and get pregnant.. I am going to be a nervous reck but its all part of being pregnant after a loss.. I am sure once you reach a point where you know your baby is well cooked your nerves will cool down.. till then just think positive.. good luck and sticky baby dust...

4legsRbest · August 2012

Welcome to pgal - the bad news is that it is pretty rough the whole time - the good, no, the great news, is that we have each other! The worries will change depending on where you are in your pg, but I can guarantee you that you are not alone on this journey, so pull up a seat and let the fun begin!

GL to you!

Chocodoxies · August 2012

rkrichey:
Well, simply put, you don't remain calm. You will be worried almost every day and you'll probably go through a lot, A LOT of toilet paper... It will be hard but we're here for you!

Nailed it. I think I was averaging two rolls a day for my whole first trimester from just "checking" constantly. Now I average at least a roll a day from just peeing every five minutes! Nothing calmed me down more than these PGAL ladies. When you are freaking out, they can calm you down, and just simply reading the posts from other PGAL's made me feel not so alone. Congratulations on your LO!

Cocobeee · August 2012

Don't feel bad, its hard to remain calm in the 1st tri. I did the same thing, constantly checking for bleeding. It does get better as you get further. Just try your best to breathe and relax. Focus on other things in your life and be thankful, that really got me through it.

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